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birdiem
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   Posted 11/5/2007 7:35 AM (GMT -7)   
so i have just started dating someone i really like. he knows that i have "colon problems" but doesn't understand the extent of them. we are going away this weekend (one bathroom) and i am a little worried ) (ok, a lot) about how that is going to work out. he's super nice and would be understanding, i just wish it wasn't an issue. any advice on how to make this weekend have less "problems"? i mean, i am human, i don't want him to hear EVERYTHING, you know?
katie
23
diagnosed with cecal volvulus, 2006; two colon resections in the same year
diagnosed with colitis 2007
malrotated colon
no cecal valve, removed during surgery
gastritis

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Forvia
compazine


MitzMN
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   Posted 11/5/2007 7:44 AM (GMT -7)   
Bring a small portable radio or something that makes some noise and put it in the bathroom. Turn it on when using the bathroom.

Heck, he may even appreciate it being there when it's his turn to use the bathroom!

Don't sweat it. Enjoy the weekend!!!!

Mitz
Sporadic proctitis since about 1985. Mother had J-pouch surgery 1983.
DX'd with clostridium difficile in 2000. Pred, two courses of Flagyl, then Vancomycin finally got rid of it. 2001 colonoscopy dx'd left-sided UC. . Treated with prednisone, Rowasa, Asacol. Asacol not working, switched to Imuran. Three small flares since in 2002, 2005, and 2007, brought under control with steroid and Rowasa enemas. Lap Chole performed October 26, 2007, after gall bladder attack in June, '07.
Daily meds: 100 mg Azathioprine and 225 mg Effexor XR (for chronic, longstanding depression), many vitamins and Primadophilus Reuteri


Lonie
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   Posted 11/5/2007 8:00 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey, I know just how you feel; I'm in the same boat. I sometimes turn on the water and I bring a small can of Oust with me (you can get the small samples where in the travel section.) Good luck and have fun this weekend...remember....it's only human!

Carol

Remicade - will have my 19th infusion on November 1.
Imuran - 100 mgs....taken before bedtime
Vitamin B-12/Biotin, Probiotics

"Life is short -- make fun of it"
 
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love4cats
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   Posted 11/5/2007 8:31 AM (GMT -7)   
If he is like my husband, he probably won't even notice if he is watching TV or sleeping.  Maybe having the TV turned up a bit may help.
 
 
Dx:  2006
 
Meds:  None so far. Garlic works to ease flares. My GI laughed when I told him and said it was just coincidence.
 
Diet:  Regular fresh garlic, Biobest yogurt daily, Omega 3 supplements, very limited junk food, carbs and processed food, low fat diet.  Lots of fresh fruit and veggies (limited potatoes). 
 
Added: tumeric and probiotics.
 
 


expecting226
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   Posted 11/5/2007 8:49 AM (GMT -7)   
I always run the water and/or turn on the exhaust fan. That helps to drown out any noise. Enjoy your weekend!
Current Medications:
- Asacol (4 pills, 2x per day)
- Rowasa (1 enema daily, as needed)
- Folic Acid (1 mg, 1x per day)
- Calcium (600 mg, 2x per day)
- Prenatal Vitamin (1x per day)


GardenerJames
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   Posted 11/5/2007 8:57 AM (GMT -7)   
I always turn on the exhaust fan, I also have a radio in the bathroom which I could use if things are really bad. But the best thing to keep in mind is my favorite book title (which I've never read) "Everybody Poops"
And even though we poop more than most people, everybody farts and burps too, so you're not gonna make any noise that he hasn't made before.
He may giggle a bit, but he'll get over it.
Lastly, have a great time!!!
James
Current Meds www.myspace.com/gardenerjames

Asacol 4 tabs 2x daily
Forvia once a day
Probiotic twice daily
Methotrexate 3 pills once a week
Actonel once a week
Calcium supp.
Omega-3 once daily
Tenth Remicade infusion Early December


tamtam10
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   Posted 11/5/2007 9:27 AM (GMT -7)   

oh sweetie... this is not silly at all. we have all been there.

i use the fan and run the water. The guy should def. understand. I always try to be honest about my condition without giving too many details. You will be fine. have a great time!


TamTam10
 
Diagnosed with Pan Colitis 2004 (age 23).
Asacol 12 per day
Prednisone, off 2006
6mp 75mg per day (got off becuase I am starting Remicade)
Canasa when needed
Remicade second infusion Aug 21st


birdiem
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   Posted 11/5/2007 9:32 AM (GMT -7)   
oh man i love you guys!
katie
23
diagnosed with cecal volvulus, 2006; two colon resections in the same year
diagnosed with colitis 2007
malrotated colon
no cecal valve, removed during surgery
gastritis

VSL #3
Amitriptyline to slow gastric emptying
Forvia
compazine


tjf
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   Posted 11/5/2007 9:46 AM (GMT -7)   
Are you kidding.....I have been married for 6 years (together for over 8) & I worry. If the bathroom only has one toliet I totally either run water or the shower. OR I make an excuse to go to the lobby and use the main bathroom.
Tabitha (Tab)

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sweetmelody
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   Posted 11/5/2007 10:00 AM (GMT -7)   
BWAHAHA I'm past the point of worrying, I've only been married for a month almost.


When I first started dating my now hubby.. I was in the WORST flare of my life... and he wanted to go on a 3 hour trip away from anywhere I felt comfortable haha. Not only was I nervous because he was a new guy in my life, but also because at that point in time I made SO much noise in the bathroom.


When we got to the hotel... there was ofcourse only ONE bathroom. And OFCOURSE even with water and fan on it feels like it's echoing or something.

So what I tried to do most of the time is make an excuse... I'm gonna go get a snack.. run down to the lobby and use their public bathroom hahaha. And in the middle of the night if I woke up too.. I'd just sneak outta the room and go down to the lobby.

But further into dating ofcourse whenever one of us farted or burped we laughed about it and would in a cute way say OOPS I GOT THE GAS BUBBLES!
hahahaha.

Now he knows my sounds... so I don't care anymore.



BUT yeah.. try all the water, fan and flushing the toilet when you really have to let one rip. hahaha
Diagnosed with UC March 07
 
Medications: Colazal 3 3x a day
                  Prednisone- 40mg
                  Lialda- 2 a day


tabitha m
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   Posted 11/5/2007 12:17 PM (GMT -7)   
Just sing - loudly !!

Ive been with my husband 20 years and apart from the odd slip up we have never passed wind in front of each other , weird i know but i think its kind of sweet , anyway that was until this year when i had the worse flare of my life , and i wouldnt have cared if he'd been sitting on my lap , you cant control it , ive just realised this doesnt really answer your question , Sorry, i hope you have a wonderful time anyway ! lol

Tab
Diagnosed Proctitis 2003
leaped to Pancolitis May 2007
bye bye Pred (fingerscrossed )!
2000mg pentasa a day
omega 3
Allergic to Sulphalizine
In remission since june
Multivitamin and calcium supplement
 
 


Beth75
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   Posted 11/5/2007 2:08 PM (GMT -7)   
all of the above and leave something 'out in the car' for those really loud farts that need some space. Mine can get very, very loud. I brought the trash out last night during the Patriots game, otherwise I would have shook the house (we only have one bathroom and it is right next to the living room) most of the time, the fan and water drown it out but I get nervous around company (even though I should not).

have fun and good luck!
Beth, 32
UC Diagnosed March 2000 (30 cenitmeters)
Azathioprine 150mg 1xday nightly;Remicade tests pending;Hydrocortisone enemas 1xday;Calcium and Vit D 500mg 3xday, Multi Vit, Folic Acid 400mg 2xday, Potassium 600mg 1xday, Probiotics.
Minimal Change Disease (Kidney Disorder) Diagnosed Sept 2007
Prednisone 60mg 1xday, Simvastatin 20mg 1xday, Diovan 80mg 1xday. Fosomax 70mg 1xweek. MCD may be from hypersensitivty to 5ASA drugs.


NuffinButtTrouble
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   Posted 11/5/2007 2:15 PM (GMT -7)   
Some excellent ideas here...

I guess it's kinda like trying not to fart in an elevator...lol, but we're human so even if he hears you...I'm sure he will understand, you're only human.

Go and have fun, if that means switching on the fan or radio...so be it.

Enjoy!

NBT
Diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis January 2007
Meds: Remicade, Primal Defense Ultra, Multi-vitamins (also iron, B12, Magnesium and Zinc), Flaxseed/Natures Bounty Fish Oil
Swanson Ultra Caprylic Acid (natural anti-fungal) 600mg x2 daily
Carrot & Garlic supplements (natural anti-fungal) x2 daily
 


birdiem
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   Posted 11/5/2007 2:17 PM (GMT -7)   
thank you for all the great ideas!
katie
23
diagnosed with cecal volvulus, 2006; two colon resections in the same year
diagnosed with colitis 2007
malrotated colon
no cecal valve, removed during surgery
gastritis

VSL #3
Amitriptyline to slow gastric emptying
Forvia
compazine


Harpo
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   Posted 11/5/2007 2:21 PM (GMT -7)   
This makes me think of that movie "dumb and dumber" when Lloyd gets slipped those "turbolax" at the girl he;'s courting's chalet..


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wbDiujuv6rQ
Male 36yrs old. Indeterminate Colitis 6 yrs.


Pro-bio

Protonix
multi vitamin

Post Edited (Harpo) : 11/5/2007 2:24:43 PM (GMT-7)


kb5
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   Posted 11/5/2007 4:32 PM (GMT -7)   
I also use the radio and light lots of candles! See, candles are also romantic....works two ways...

I got lucky. My husband and I are very open with each other. I think talking about bm's is as common as the weather in our house. It took awhile to get this comfortable with each other it takes time. Most likely he won't notice but if he does notice it's a good test of what kind of guy he is. I'm sure everything will go great! Have fun!
Kelly, 29

Left sided UC diagnosed 1/98 age 19, Pan colitis diagnosed 1/07
Currently on 4x3 Asacol, Rowasa every other night, 15 mg pred. until immuran kicks in...
75mg Imuran starting 8/23/07---bumped to 100mg 10/8/07
Prontonix once daily for acid reflux, zofran twice daily for nausea


dakotagirl
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   Posted 11/5/2007 6:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Even though my hubby doesn't care and will laugh with me, I still turn on the exhaust fan! We have some old ones that are SUPER loud (to my ears) so they should drown out most noise.

But really, if those noises are going to scare away a potential mate - good ridance!

Just be prepared to laugh :)

(I like the one about the "gas bubbles". It's funny.)
Pan-colitis and GERD diagnosed May 2003
 
Asacol 12 per day,  Azathioprine 75mg, Rowasa and Canasa as needed
Aciphex, Effexor XR, BCP, Rhinocort nasal spray
Forvia and a Probiotic
 
Osteopenia (hip and spine) from prednisone use.  Started Azathioprine because I was steroid dependent.
 
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kazygirl
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   Posted 11/10/2007 12:48 AM (GMT -7)   
i have absolutely no issues anymore with any noise smell sound or anything that comes outta my bum im public or private.

we all do it and there is no stopping us whether we want to or not.

i dont even close the bathroom door at home. i just let'er go and thats that.
(of course he yells from acoss the house "good god woman", but that just makes me giggle so i dont care)
i mean, what can you do? nothing. its just the way we are!

you should just mention to him that you have a medical condition that makes you run to the loo alot and its a bit noisy. best to get it out in the open first off. so then you have one less thing to worry about. cuz "worry" is not good for our colons.

maybe you share an "embarrassing moment" with him and he with you. and make yours a poo story. a funny one. laugh it off and tell him that its gonna happen more and to be prepared.

most guys like honesty and they dont care about this stuff. they are guys. they fart and poop and all that jazz. its the girls that get all embarrassed.

i say get it out first and then when you go to the can, tell him to turn up the tv really loud so he can't hear you!
31 year old female - diagnosed UC in 2000
started as proctitis and now is pancolitis..
this current year long flare is now severe on left side only.
just got out of hospital with 200mg of hydrocortisone injections a day
**3 weeks out of hospital and have no colitis symptoms... normal bm's only 1x a day + no blood
 
50mg prednisone 1x  with lunch or breakfast
50mg imuran 1x  8pm stopped it to try and have a baby
2x 500mg mesalazine 2x day + night
2.5mg endone (oxycontin) every 6-8 hours for pain
25mg tomazepam for sleeping
VSL#3 didnt work
Aloe Elite didnt work
Budesonide 9mg day didnt work
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birdiem
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   Posted 11/12/2007 1:09 PM (GMT -7)   
all went well! somehow i managed to avoid anything to terrible and i had a wonderful weekend. YEA! (good trick--if you can swing it--try to take care of business before you take a shower. the water drains out the noise and the soap makes the bathroom smell fresh and clean. of course, it only works about once a day, but still
katie
23
diagnosed with cecal volvulus, 2006; two colon resections in the same year
diagnosed with colitis 2007
malrotated colon
no cecal valve, removed during surgery
gastritis

VSL #3
Amitriptyline to slow gastric emptying
Forvia
compazine


dakotagirl
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   Posted 11/12/2007 3:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Glad to hear it went well!

Good idea about the shower too :)
Pan-colitis and GERD diagnosed May 2003
 
Asacol 12 per day,  Azathioprine 75mg, Rowasa and Canasa as needed
Aciphex, Effexor XR, BCP, Rhinocort nasal spray
Forvia and a Probiotic
 
Osteopenia (hip and spine) from prednisone use.  Started Azathioprine because I was steroid dependent.
 
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Bmshurt
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   Posted 11/12/2007 3:48 PM (GMT -7)   
Glad to hear nothing terrible happened. I found that my gas bombs are louder and more stinky now that have UC. Not sure if thats just the diet im on now or what but it gets bad (even when not flared). When im going to be away from home, out on the town, or an important meeting at work, I always eat a few Imodium AD and this seems to hold off those barking smelly gremlins long enough to make it to a safe sound proof place (not always but they do help). I got it bad, my wife is totally against ripping them in front of each other, so i have to go in the other room and light a match to cover up. Water running and fan are good to cover up but nothing beats the shower or electric clippers/razor. Going on a trip i would be worried about the type of TP the hotel or place im staying at has. Most of the time its ruff stuff which is why i never leave home without my travel kit. Meds of course, Hemi cream and medicated wipes (how refreshing after a long day of wiping), Imodium AD, matches, air freshener, and a good mag or book.
Medication:
Predisone 20MG Daily
Imuran x2 Daily
Probiotic x2 Daily
Multivitamin x1 Daily
Oscal Calcuim Tabs X2 Daily
 
Diagnosed with UC in May of 2007
 

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