What is right for you might not be right for someone else. I really think we all need to find our own way of dealing with this. So Mitz let me quite clearly deal with your points, one by one:
1) What others tell me is very helpful. I listen to all comments. The ones I disagree with and are not for me I simply let rest.
2) I neither am in denial nor am I pretending.
3) I believe that losing your sight is a chronic illness. I do not believe that my UC is a chronic illness for me.
4) The way I feel about
myself is that I am a healthy person who does not suffer from a chronic illness. Its not a matter of acceptance nor denial for me. Maybe it was for you.
5) I take Asacol to remain healthy not to avoid being sick. Yep for me they are 2 different things. When I cross a street I always look right left and then right again. Another cunning strategy to remain healthy!
6) I do not believe that gender plays a major part in how we view diseases. I have seen my mother beat cancer and my uncle beat cancer. I've also seen a male and female friend die from cancer. But this is simply my opinion framed by my own experience.
7) Your approach is not for me Mitz. I applaud you for the progress you've made. But I will not be accepting your advice.
8) Finally Mitz I didn't really like your opening line that you can't accept why myself and Harpo have this attitude. We are different people. I don't think its very fair to impose your view on us.
This is my approach. For me, it's been the approach that has worked the best for a relatively symptom-free life so I can concentrate on living!!!