Hi..are you male or female?
I have no kids with the support of my husband....decided factor based on the fact that I have a few inherited autoimmune conditions as well as back and neck problems since I was a kid. I also have depression and anxiety, and I would hazard to even imagine how I would have dealt while being sick or even passing it on. My parents knew nothing about
this stuff...I do, and thankfully I, nor my brother have any kids.
I'm somewhat resentful I've had to MAKE a decision, but have no regrets.
No one will deny ever having had kids after the fact....for how can you deny a child you have already produced and love.
If you're male......personally....I don't think having flares will interfere with your producing or having kids, for many men I know don't have the major role of looking after them. Being in the bathroom will interfere with lifestyle, as will the obvious being on meds and pain and suffering having UC can cause.
There are some who absolutely hate having UC and wish for a cure and would never wish it on anyone.....yet have a baby after all that.
I know of a woman who was diagnosed with MS and went through much to have a baby. It put her in a bad state for a long while and the doctors told her that another baby could render her to an exacerbation of her condition. So, guess what she did....had another baby. She's now under complete 24 hour care, cannot even sit up, has someone else caring for her children and her husband left her.
Go figure. I have empathy for her children...but that's it.
Oh, forgot to add I'm still married going on 29 years. My husband would have been a wonderful and understanding father, but he knows it would have been hell with kids because of me.
Some call our decision selfish....sigh.
*Heather*Status:mini flare June 23* 6asacol daily+ Salofalk (tapered every 4th night)
~diagnosed January 1989 UC (proctosigmoiditis)
~5ASA: Asacol + Salofalk enemas (increase for flares tapered to maintenance)
~Bentylol (dicyclomine) 20mg as needed
~Probiotic 2 (Natural Factors Protec) + 1 (Primadophilus Reuteri) at bedtime
~Natural Factors Multi Digestive Enzymes with supper
~Ranitidine,Pariet (reflux) Effexor XR 75mg; Pulmicort/Airomir (asthma)
~URSO for PSC (or PBC) 500mg X 2 daily (LFTs back to NORMAL!!)
My doc's logic.. "TREAT (FROM)BOTH ENDS" worth it !!!