I agree that
open and honest communication is really important. My husband is wonderful, he took care of the house and yard and me when I was so sick, all while working full time. The only time we ever really had a problem was when I had a really bad spell and didn't tell him. I was thinking he was probably sick to death of hearing about
my poo and my pain, so I'd just keep it to myself. I nearly passed out in the bathroom one day, and he was furious with me. He accused me of "shutting him out." I learned from that, and now he always knows if I'm feeling sub-par, because what I've found out about
him is that it scares him if I get sick and don't tell him.
Really explaining your fears and feelings can be very helpful. If your partner responds badly to that, he or she probably isn't the right one for you.
Judy
Moderate to severe left-sided UC diagnosed 2001.
Current meds are Colazal, Azathioprine and Remicade. Completely off steroids for more than a year now! In remission since April, 2006. Remicade has been my wonder drug.
Now tapering Azathioprine, please pray for me.
"If you spend your time second-guessing your past decisions, you'll never have time to enjoy today."