First off, I want to say that the notion of colon removal scares the heck out of me. I hope that I never have to make a decision like that, but I have read about
j-pouch surgery, and from what people say, you get used to it and not to be afraid. I find some degree of consolation in that.
As a kid, I can remember doing something stupid and wrong, and knowing in the back of my mind that I could get in a LOT of trouble for it. Then, once I inevitably got in trouble, I was always filled with remorse and wished that I could turn back time and make another decision. That's how I relate the j-pounch surgery. It's not the most convenient thing, but it's lot better than its likely alternative. It's just a matter of getitng used to the idea.
Well, maybe not an answer for you, but at least another way of looking at things