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winterangel
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   Posted 9/14/2010 7:24 AM (GMT -7)   
I need some advice with 2 situations involved to this,I am a 43 year old woman who suffered a heart attack a little over a month ago.The first is The doctor stopped me from working so I have lost my income.So until I am approved for disability,I need help.I was put on a heart medication that is over $100.00,I applied for help with the cost,were I will get the meds free for a year,but it will take 8 weeks until I am approved and start getting the medicine.So up until then I am on my own with the meds,the Doctor told me I have to take the med or I will end up heaving a second heart attack and if I do it will be fatal.I had paid for the meds last month,but with no income not I am tapped.My Mother lives sort of with me it's 2 places on the same property,the home and a cottage.I had asked my mother If we could turn off the cable and internet for 1 month so I could get my meds this month,and turn it back on next month,I will be on the program next month,she knows I could die without it.She told me no,she's not losing her internet and her friends,and went on and on on how important her friends are and the fun she has with them..She really hurt me,knowing the out come it could be if I do not take my meds.I am very angry and hurt by that,I will not talk to her,if she calls I ignore the phone.What really hurt me even more is my oldest son asked her if her son,(my brother) needed his phenobarbital,and his insurance no longer paid for it would she turn off the cable and internet for his meds..And she told my son,"Yes,he needs his medicine or he will have seizures...which hurt me even more,cause I could die...well she paid her cable/internet.....and I have enough meds til tomorrow.
The second is I was told I have to rest alot and can not be stressed,well that's all my girlfriend is doing to me..she gets her moods were she will look to pick fights,and she will start screaming at me on top of her lungs...I have unstable angina due to the heart attack,and I have constant chest pains,due to her....I want to leave,but because I can not work,I have no money...I need to have a CT scan done and she said she will get the money together,but after that I am on my own if I need surgery,or anything I have to figure it out from there.But I have to now depend on her for the scan,so I am stuck,and can't leave....I becoming so depressed,I don't know what to do,I don't know were to turn....after my friends found out I had a heart attack,and that my life is in danger,my friends started dropping like flies.....I don't know what to do, anyone have any advice on these two problems?

stkitt
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   Posted 9/14/2010 1:44 PM (GMT -7)   
 
Welcome to HealingWell.  Sorry to hear of your problems but a bit more info would be helpful.  What kind of heart attack did you have and did you have an angiography?  Also what is the medication that you must take or you will have a heart attack and die ? Why did your Dr. tell you that you cannot work ever again ?
 
If your friend is willing to pay for a CT Scan of your heart which would run about $1500 - $1700 depending on where you live why could she not have borrowed you the $100.00 for the med that would save your life? 
 
I would start with going to your PCP and telling him how you are feeling and perhaps you would get some info on where to go for temporary help with your financial issues. 
Again if you want to share a bit more info I would be glad to try to advise you better.
 
Kindly,
Kitt
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winterangel
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   Posted 9/14/2010 6:08 PM (GMT -7)   
they do not know what kind of heart attack I had yet that is what the CT scan is supposed to show,I had gone through the er and they found the unstable angina and just said I did have a heart attack...I am on Imdur,nitro,plavix and aspirin. The er doctor told me I have to take the meds,cause with the unstable angina I am at high risk of having another heart attack,and if I do not take the meds I will go into a second heart attack. the doc didn't say I could never work again,I can't work until they find out what is wrong and fix it and until the unstable angina is controlled.were I live the CT scan will be $400.00 and my friend can't afford that much,she is doing the entire 400,she pays all the doctor bills,takes me to my heart doctor,she paid my hospital bill that was over 4,000.....my girlfriend can only do what she has it to do....my mother hasn't offered one penny to help.she doesn't even come knock on my door to see if I am ok,since I live all alone.
as far as my pcp he hasn't done anything,I went to him the day after i got out of the hospital,and all he told me was go to a cardiologist.He wouldn't even have my records faxed from the hospital to him because he didn't want to have to pay the fee.I had been telling him for 4 years that there is something wrong,my hands and feet keep swelling up and every now and then I had got chest pains.and in 4 years he did nothing.He is the same one that i went to because I am diabetic,and told him I cant get my sugar level below 200 and he told me to eat less,and I told him I am hardly eating now,and he tells me well then don't eat at all,i said if i dont eat i'll die and he shot back at me do you know of anyone who ever died from not eating.umm yes I have,my best friend when i was 14 died from anorexia.and I can't drive right now and he is walking distance so I can't change doctors right now.....there is no financial help for anything unless you have minor children then you can get medicaid....and i do not have minor children anymore.....And like I had said getting back to my girlfriend,I can not get stressed and that is all she is doing to me,just looking to fight over everything.And I honestly believe it was my girlfriend that caused me to have a heart attack in the first place.the day before my heart attack she did nothing but pick fights the entire day and really had me extremely upset and stressed,and I woke at 4am the next morning having a heart attack...I cant take it anymore,but if I leave then I can kiss the CT scan good-bye,and yet I can't take the fighting and the stress anymore.I just don't know what to do.

stkitt
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   Posted 9/15/2010 6:31 AM (GMT -7)   
To the best of my knowledge,  from your EKG, your doctors will be able to tell:
  • Whether you've had a heart attack
  • What kind of heart attack you've had
  • Which part of your heart has been damaged
  • How fast your heart is beating
  • Your heart's rhythm, that is, whether your heart is beating in a regular pattern.

It feels to me like you really need the advise of a counselor to help you deal with all of your fears and anxieties.  I wish you the best and hope you can find some relief from all of your tensions.

Kindly,

Kitt


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winterangel
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   Posted 9/15/2010 11:09 PM (GMT -7)   
I wasn't asking for advice on how to deal with anxieties and fears,I was asking for advice on if I had good reason to feel betrayed and hurt by my mother because I needed her help,and she turned her back on me,but told my son if my brother needed help with his medicine she would help him.....and the second was if anyone had any advice as how to deal and cope with the stress my girlfriend is putting me through.where does fear and anxiety come to play into that?.......in the ER they did a ekg,the ONLY thing the doctor told me was I had a heart attack,and unstable angina...I wasn't told anything else.....I went into that hospital with chest pain and they made me sit in the waiting room for 4 hours before I went back into the exam rooms,They were in a hurry to get rid of me because I had no money to pay the hospital...they gave me an x-ray,an EKG,and took blood,gave me 2 baby aspirin's told me to see a cardiologist in 3 to 5 days and sent me on my way.I went to a cardiologist and he told me that I have to have a CT scan and that will show what is wrong with my heart,and what has to be fixed,I was told it will be 400 dollars,and the cardiologist also said I did have a heart attack,but that was it,he wrote me scripts for meds and that was it.nothing else was told to me.... but again my questions were over my mother and girlfriend. because that is what is bothering me.

stkitt
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   Posted 9/16/2010 5:35 AM (GMT -7)   
I am sorry your post has been misunderstood.
 
You posted " I was asking for advice on if I had good reason to feel betrayed and hurt by my mother because I needed her help,and she turned her back on me,but told my son if my brother needed help with his medicine she would help him.....and the second was if anyone had any advice as how to deal and cope with the stress my girlfriend is putting me through.where does fear and anxiety come to play into that?"
 
My simple answer to your question is "stress and anxiety go hand in hand." 
 
As far as how you feel about your mother and your girlfriend,  only you can decided if you feel betrayed and if you feel it is justified. 
 
You posted at the end of your last post "but again my questions were over my mother and girlfriend. because that is what is bothering me."
 
The  Heart & Cardiovascular Disease Forum is a resource for those living with or affected by heart/cardiovascular disease.

 
You may find the Anxiety and Panic Forum more helpful for your stress and your questions re you Mother and friend as many members in that forum deal with stress and family situations that are causing them concerns. 
 
Just click on the following link and you will find the Anxiety/Panic Forum:
 
 
 
 
~~Kitt~~
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winterangel
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   Posted 9/16/2010 8:21 PM (GMT -7)   
ok let me ask you this,since this room is about health issues with the heart,If I decided not to do a Ct scan now and put it off for awhile,but took my meds(when I can get them) and stood stress free and stuff,what are the chances I would be ok until I had saved the money myself to have the test? I really want to end my relationship right now,but if I have to depend on her to pay for the test I can not end it.but yet if I stay the stress she is causing is going to kill me.

stkitt
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   Posted 9/17/2010 8:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Dear Winterangel,
 
As the patient  you may choose to follow your Doctor's recommendation for a CT scan or not.  It is alway up to you if you want to have a procedure.   Has the scan been scheduled ?
 
What are the chances of you being OK - well that is a great question but I am not a psychic so I do not have an answer. 
 
I guess you must decide which is more important,  getting away from your family/friends or finding out if the scan can give you more info re your heart condition.
 
I wish you peace,
 
Kitt
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winterangel
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   Posted 9/17/2010 9:47 PM (GMT -7)   
yes it has been scheduled for October 18th, they think it may be a blocked artery. if it is what does that mean? a stent?

stkitt
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   Posted 9/18/2010 7:22 AM (GMT -7)   
The gold standard for years has been the coronary angiography for dx coronary artery disease.  Ultrasound has been used most recently as well as coronary calcium scoring by CT (this is when the dye is injected via a cather).

The treatment is dependent on the test results.  


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