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Date Joined Jul 2014
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   Posted 7/13/2014 10:57 AM (GMT -6)   
That may not make sense but since 2000 my husband has had a triple bypass, chronically hi BP, a pacemaker a defibrillator, 4 heart attacks 3 stents, stage 4 neck and throat cancer, feeding tube etc... Now because he had been coughing and low back pain that was killing him he finally went to ER. He has a 4.1 thoracic aortic aneurysm that wasn't there 13 mos ago. Sounds fast growing to me. He has gotten more tired lately, threw up for no reason yesterday, still having mild discomfort, I don't know yet how quick it's growing but it IS INOPERABLE. His health is too bad. He's 59 and if u can't treat it or fix it it's going to kill him isn't it? He's dying I know it. Ive been thru 17 years with him and I know this is the end. Someone please share your story or something. I'm a mess.

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Date Joined Jan 2014
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   Posted 7/15/2014 6:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Aginn10,

Welcome to the forum, I'm sorry to see the extent of the problems your husband (and you) are experiencing. You're worrying on a specific issue of your husband's health, I'm not sure that'll be productive.

My wife and I were called to the hospital, told to be prepared for my mother's passing. She had heart problems, was wearing a Do Not Resuscitate wristband. The doctors decided to implant a pacemaker. That was several years ago, she's alive and well now.

Keep in touch with his doctors, make sure they know his willingness to live, that he's not been beaten by his health conditions up to this point. Though the conditions are not the same, there was some reason the hospital told us to prepare for my mothers passing, she was accepting of it, but for some reason the doctors had a change of mind. My mother was in her later 80's and is 93 this year. We couldn't believe the difference the pacemaker made.

My prayers are with you and your husband.

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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 7/16/2014 8:46 AM (GMT -6)   
My prayers are with you and I am saddened by the many medical problems your husband has going on.  Have you and your husband ever sat down with his Dr. and discussed your husband's prognosis?
Reading his many issues  and knowing  there is no cure for some of them, have you and your husband discussed his outlook or does he prefer not to discuss his medical problems and enjoy each day in whatever way that brings him peace?
I, too, have cancer - advanced colon cancer - it is not curable so my goal is to enjoy the many good days and on the bad days pray for strength to continue to live in the moment.
My husband has a serious heart problem too.
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