Husband having valve sparing aortic root repair this week

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fluffycabbage
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   Posted 9/2/2014 9:58 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi everyone,

Obviously new here, but have been searching for a forum like this for a while. My 44 yo husband is having Valve Sparing (hopefully) Aortic Root Replacement on Thursday. I guess I am just looking for some encouraging words. We have three young children and while I am strong and coping well when I am with them I find I am a basket case on the inside. Our friends and family know what's going on but I find instead of seeking support from them I am desperately avoiding them - anytime anyone says anything kind or looks at me with that pitying look I just burst into tears and I hate that. I'm so sick of crying. And really, no one knows what to say and it just makes them feel uncomfortable.

I am terrified and I can't even talk to my best friend about it because he is the one going through it all. I have to be strong for him so he knows everything will be fine. And of course it will, because there really is no other option. But then last night he told me he is scared of his personality changing after this surgery and now I have read that that's a real possibility. He doesn't want to change. I don't want him to change. He is the most funny, fun loving, kind, patient, giving person and he is so involved with our kids. I can't imagine losing any part of that.

Sorry that this is somewhat rambling on… please tell me that you've been here where I am now and have come out on the other side and everything is fine and perfect and normal.

pvct
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   Posted 9/2/2014 11:37 AM (GMT -6)   
Welcome,

I can not relate to your situation, but I and my wife do have our disorders, mine being rythym disturbances, many of them, and my wife with various conditions, so I in some way can relate to your anguish. Please do not distress yourself to badly, I am sure that your husband will get superb care, and be right back in the pink of things soon. You have come to the right forum, for there are many compassionate and well educatd people here who will support you. my
best to you and your husband. :-) turn

pvct
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   Posted 9/2/2014 11:39 AM (GMT -6)   
sorry for the typos. can't stand typing on this Ipad, even though I LOVE it!
pvct

fluffycabbage
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   Posted 9/3/2014 10:50 AM (GMT -6)   
Pvct thank you for your reply and words of encouragement. My husband is on the verge of a nervous breakdown. He is self employed and we have no short term disability insurance so the idea of him not being able to run his business is very scary. I only work part time and cannot support our household. We haven't even taken a 4 day weekend in the last 12 years because he can't leave the business.

Surgery time is 745am EST tomorrow. Can't wait for it to be over with.

pvct
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   Posted 9/3/2014 1:06 PM (GMT -6)   
I do wish you and your husband the best of luck.
And please keep this forum posted when you can. There are many of us here who share your anxiety. I am now going through another episode of "vicious cycle" arrhythmias that disturb waking and sleeping hours. It is enough to drive you crazy. There is a ton of support here and I have been comforted by it. I hope you will be too. :-)

jdiane
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   Posted 9/4/2014 9:25 AM (GMT -6)   
Thinking of you. I have not had my aortic root repaired yet, but I did have my aortic valve replaced 2 years ago. I am 38. I can tell you that I went home 4 days after surgery and ran a mile 7 weeks later. I went back to the office 5 weeks after surgery.

fluffycabbage
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   Posted 9/5/2014 6:09 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you both for your kind words. Surgery went well yesterday although they did have to replace his valve in the end. He is disappointed but at the end of the day we are just happy that part is over with now. Yesterday was the longest day of my life and a huge weight has been lifted now.

On to recovery!

fluffycabbage
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   Posted 9/5/2014 6:11 AM (GMT -6)   
Jdiane do you have a mechanical valve? Are you on Coumadin? What changes did you have to make because of it?

I purposely didn't do any research beforehand because I wanted to stay positive that they could spare the valve.

jdiane
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   Posted 9/5/2014 9:27 AM (GMT -6)   
So glad he did well!!!! You'll be so surprised how fast recovery will go.

I did not go with the mechanical valve. I decided to go with a bio-prosthetic (tissue) an have a bovine valve.

The tissue valves do not require a blood thinner, but I do take 2 baby aspirins a day.

I will have to replace my valve many times in my lifetime, but I'm hoping to get 15 years out of it. I also have Crohn's disease, so blood thinners aren't a good option for me.
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