Peggy its a tough one. It may be just time, thats needed, or it may be some tough love. It would be great if you could get him to talk to a professional, but it sounds like he's not that guy.
I got really depressed for about
a month or two after i was diagnosed with CAD and had stents put in. I knew exactly why. Mortality was smacking me in the face. Going on a long trip helped, we had preplanned a trip to Alaska and Vancouver, so being away for 10 days and always being busy and with friends helped get me out of my funk. Not only because i was busy, but because it made me realize that i can still have fun. Maybe this is something you should consider. Give it some thought...
One other thing, and i hope this is not the case .... my father many years ago had
open heart surgery, triple bypass, and was never the same from the moment he came out of surgery. He was sullen, never talked, and eventually developed dementia. Wasnt a good ending so i wont continue, but i know this is more common than Doctors talk about
open heart surgery. They kept telling me that t would resolve in a year or two, but it didnt. I'm convinced something happened during surgery. I hope thats not the case with your husband, but it might be worth a conversation with his Doctors as well.
Dx Age 64 Nov 2014, 4.3
BX 3 of 12 cores positive original pathologyG6, G6, G8 (3+5)
downgraded to 3+3=6 by Dr Epstein, JH
RALP with Dr Ash Tewari Jan 6, 2015
Post surgical pathology – G7 (3+4), ECE, Margins, LN, SV all negative
PSA @ 6 weeks 2/15, .<02, 4/15 <.02 7/15 <.02, 10/15 0.00 (new lab) , 1/16, 0.00
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