I'm so glad you came back to tell us your story. I confess my husband has not had a heart attack, but with his high blood pressure, I worry.
And the thing of it is, I battle anxiety, but not because of his high B/P.
But I wanted to reply to you, because you are not taking care of 'you' now. And that is the same thing that you worried about your husband about.
Anxiety with High blood pressure is, well .... of course you know, like a match and gasoline.
You can seek out a Counselor. You don't need a Psychologist necessarily, but at least a Licensed Counselor to talk to about your fear and whatever else that may surface during your talks with her. It's never enough to "just take pills"... but when you go to your Dr. (which I hope you will), I wouldn't turn down the pills, but just take them until you feel the Counseling has gotten you through the worst of these feelings and then 'taper' off of the medication as you feel better.
I don't think the worry will completely leave you, but he does have a better chance now that he is doing the right things.
When my husband is an hour late from work, I would worry. When I'm watching the News before he gets home, and I hear there's been a 10 car pile up on the Hwy he takes home, I worry.
Mother's worry about their children. Children worry about their pets when they run loose a lot.
Seems to be a part of life for us, but when it affects 'your health' ... it's time to take action for yourself, so you won't someday make him worry about you, while you're in the Hospital.
As you go through this, live each day making happy memories together for the future. Laugh more together. Be silly with him. Make as many moments as Precious as you can ... because, someday, we'll all have to lose a loved one or spouce and we don't want to look back and think, "Why didn't I make life more fun, etc. while we could ?"
Worry has never added a day to anyone's life. But it sure can cut life short.
Have fun together, in any way you can think of.
In the meantime, see your Dr. for any suggestions he has, and a Counselor to see if you need to dig any deeper to other fears.
You'll be in my prayers Vicky.
Hope you'll keep posting and even on the Anxiety board if you feel to.
TAKE YOUR BLOOD PRESSURE MEDICINE. :)