Hang in there, Maxx. I completely understand what you are going through. It stinks. I was at a family picnic today having a great time when at the end of dinner, it felt like my upper and lower chambers were beating completely out of sync. It only lasted a minute or two and I never felt dizzy or short of breath. However it felt awful and it was hard not to get scared.
I pretty much talk myself out of the panic, but I'm never happy about it happening. My thing is that if I'm not dizzy, don't feel like I'm going to faint, can breath easily, talk, walk etc....I'm fine and it will pass. It is just my thing. However I REALLY HATE when it happens. I just always think 'this too will pass'. No one around me ever knows that it is happening. I just keep quiet about it and wait for it to pass. I appear remarkably calm but I'm SCREAMING inside. After it has been happening nonstop for a couple of weeks, I complain to my husband and he is always surprised that I was having problems with them again.
Bunny, I have no idea why things changed. I know more now and I am less fearful. I accept that they will come back from time to time. I learned biofeedback because I did not want to go on medication and my GP was bugging me. I have made many lifestyle changes to surround myself with an atmosphere of peace and calm as much as possible. However I have a daughter and a very active life. So my life can be a whirlwind of demands which need to be met. ?????
Sometimes my ectopics will start up as I am going to sleep or more annoying when I am already asleep, waking me up. I try to change to a position where I feel them less (sometimes nothing works). I play soft music, relax and ignore them. I almost always go back to sleep, but sometimes even in my sleep I feel them.
There were 3 nights last January where they would start up just as I sat down on my couch in the evenings to relax and would come every other beat. That was the worst. They lasted throughout the night and would go away just as I was getting out of bed in the morning only to come back the next night. Walking around was the only thing that would stop them. However as soon as I stopped walking, they started again. WHY? I've no idea. Even at that rate, my doctor was not concerned and said I could start a beta blocker if I wanted. Why? I knew that they would go away given a little time and they did. Yes, they came back at another time but then they went away again. I just finished 8 annoying weeks of them. However I might go 3-4 months with only an occasionaly thump or THUD.
I understand that you are trying to find the answer for WHY. Good Luck with that. I've quit.