It is me again, Faldlou. Hope I'm not beating a dead horse but I really do have a few more things to add. Just think about them.
Unless you have a thyroid problem, being overweight really comes down to taking in more calories than you are expending. We all know this but you need to find the issue/issues as to why this is happening.
For example, are you making poor food choices? Reality for me is that given freedom to eat anything I wanted and have it not matter, I would eat cheeseburgers and french fries EVERYDAY for lunch. YES-EVERYDAY. I would be happy. For dinner I would eat chicken enchilladas smoothered in jalapeno cheese sauce with rice and refried beans with plenty of chips and salsa while waiting for the food to get on the table. POOR FOOD CHOICES! It does really matter and I don't have that freedom. So I NEVER put cheese on a burger and probably eat one only 5-6 times a year when we go out for fast food. Instead I'll eat a grilled chicken. If I really want a burger, It is a very lean grilled one at home with lots of vegetable. French Fries? NEVER!!!!! I fix baked fries at home. Those chicken enchilladas which are making my mouth water by just thinking of them? Once a year, the small size (2, instead of 3) with most of the sauce scraped off and borracho beans not refried. Also I try to leave some on my plate, no need to scrape the plate clean. I won't refuse the chips because it is only once a year BUT I take only 5-10 and SAVOR, SAVOR, SAVOR!
Is poor food choices or lack of knowledge about good food choices and serving sizes your problem? OR are you a social eater? Out and about with lots of friends and family and always eating while visiting and playing? Foods at the family reunions or football games/bowling allyey/ballpark/etc... tend not to be the best. Since we are having fun while we mindlessly eating, we can rack up a good number of calories without even knowing it. Then after the event, we're still hungry because we were 'just snacking a bit'. Make social events about the people and conversations or activity and not about the food. Also BE AWARE of what you are actually putting in your mouth!
OR are you an emotional eater? This is what was KILLING ME! I would get frustrated, angry, depressed about whatever (usually a conflict with my husband) and I'd eat! It actually made me feel comforted! DANGER!!!!!!!!!!! I had to really fight this and STILL do! I love to eat high calorie, high fat foods when I'm emotionally keyed up. It literally feels like a warm blanket surrounding first my stomach, then all of my body.This is not healthy! I have to fight the urge and find a distraction. It is best to communicate with the person you might be angry or frustrated with but sometimes you can't or you need time first. Then I have found that going out for a walk, exercising, listening to music, etc...HELPS to diffuse the emotion and put me back on an even-keel providing a distraction from the food which I don't want after the emotions are under control.
I just thought of these things. Maybe they will be helpful to you. At least it is a little fuel for thought.