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I am so sorry you are feeling anxious and please know you are normal for what is going on in you life right now. Talking with you Doctor about your feelings is a good idea.
Let me see if I can help It feels to me like you have some anticipatory anxiety going on, your worrying about all the what ifs ? What if you had not gone ahead and had the surgery in the first place, what if the new Doc cannot find out why your burping and regurgitating, what if your partner gets tired of all this? Am I on the right track?
Anticipatory anxiety is where a person experiences increased levels of anxiety by thinking about an event or situation in the future. The worries you experience specifically focus on what you think might happen, often with catastrophic predictions about the event.
Why do we experience anticipatory anxiety? I think it’s because the panic response is over-zealous about doing its job: trying to locate any danger, in order to protect us. When it can’t find any danger in the present, it looks into the future. Sometimes, the only possible “danger” it can find is something you haven't done yet!
Each time you actually start the new activity – bringing the activity into the present – the anticipatory anxiety fades away.
There is no single right way to cope. Just as different people experience different feelings from stress, they also handle it in different ways. It is important to focus on the positive ways of coping that work best for you.
Try deep breathing, muscle relaxation, visualization (imagining peaceful scenes), and/or listening to soothing music.
While we can't always control what happens to us, we can always control what we say to ourselves. It's important to keep things in perspective.
Talk to yourself in reasonable ways. Ask yourself "how likely is my fear?" Remind yourself that you have coped before during other challenging times. Don't just dwell on the negative but consciously look for things you can appreciate every day.
Humor is a time-honored way to cope with stress. Watch light-hearted television shows and movies. Read a humorous book.
And keep on doing what you are doing right now, coming here to HealingWell and to your friends in the GERD Forum, talk to us and share your fears. We are here to help you.
You have my support and prayers,
Moderator: Osteoarthritis, GERD/Heartburn & Anxiety/Panic
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