Hi Tracks -
Sorry you are so upset. If you read enough of the info available you will start to understand yourself, and I hope you will start to feel better. I've been a GERD patient since I was born, and I'm on Medicare now, although nobody recognized it until I hit my late 30s. I've spent hundreds of hours researching how to feel better, and it's not the "bland" diet.
I too had a bad LES, but it was never recognized until the last few years. But that wasn't the cause of my reflux. Yes, the LES let acid into my esophagus, but PPIs took care of that by cutting the acid. Reflux has triggers. In my case it was my diet, or rather, my food sensitivities. My allergist taught me that! She had me keep a food log for a month. Then after I identified the foods, I did "challenge testing." I needed to find out what it was in the foods that caused the reflux.
It wasn't the waffle, it was the maple syrup I put on it. It wasn't the hamburger, it was catsup and mustard and pickle. It wasn't the fruit in the cherry pie, it was the cheap (beet) sugar, the bottled lemon juice and the corn starch. I could easily recognize wine and beer. But what do all these things have in common? They obviously aren't spicy!
My sensitivity (allergy says my allergist) was sulfite. It's in all the things that give me reflux. By avoiding sulfited foods I stopped most of my reflux.
Keeping a food log is worth a try. It's cheap and it doesn't take much time. Challenge testing is a little more involved, but really easy too.