I suffered from asthma that was made much worse from reflux. I was even hospitalized at one time due to the reflux-induced asthma. My first GI doc didn't think surgery was the answer, and actually was no help at all.
I went to another GI doc (urged by my family doc and my allergy/asthma doc) and had the PH monitor test. It came back very low (4) and my GI doc told me that the reflux was not causing my asthma. At the same time, my other two docs (who were struggling to control my asthma without success) were sure that the GERD was creating my lung problems.
I continued to get worse until I was at the point where neither doctor could do anything for me. Even steroids didn't help. My family doc finally made me an appointment with a surgeon he respected, and bypassed the GI doc all together. The surgeon ordered a barium swallow and did an endoscopy. Taking the lead from my doctor, and the fact that I did have a hiatal hernia, and a weak LES, he told me I was a good candidate for the surgery.
I didn't feel comfortable with doing it without getting another opinion, so I went back to the GI doc, who looked at the results of the tests the surgeon did, and added another PH monitor. This time, the number was higher--14--higher, but still a pretty average level...not as high as most patients who opt for surgery.
Still, with the persistence of my doctors, the tests, etc., the GI doc finally (after 3 years) decided that it was possible the surgery might help. Even then, he told me I could control it with meds or surgery. Seriously? I'd been taking maximum meds for four years to no avail. Anyway, he told me I could go see a surgeon that he recommended highly.
I'd had it. I made the appointment, and decided to go forward with the surgery. Even the surgeon was concerned about the low level PH number, but said that he would defer to the other doctor's opinions.
So, long story short, yes...I was told I was not a good candidate for the surgery and I ended up having it anyway. It was a long road, but in the end it paid off. I'm having a few problems at the moment, but my lungs are doing great. They're finally pretty healthy after years of severe problems.
What are the reasons your docs are giving you for not wanting to recommend the surgery? How bad are your symptoms?
Hope you find an answer soon!