It was my Allergist/Asthma doctor who said that my adult onset asthma was most likely caused by my GERD. It is disabling at times. I too have a family who says I complain all the time (and I do). But, since I had my Nissen Wrap surgery, I can already tell my breathing is getting much better. I was very active as well until about 6 years ago. My body seem to just go haywire, I was put on more and more medications and I HATE to take medicine. So, I really felt like a failure to myself and family. I am still in the healing cycle of my surgery, but am so glad I had it.
When I went to my primary care physician and mentioned that the Asthma doctor suggested I check into the Nissen surgery, he was very discouraging stating that most people end up having to have it redone or back on meds, but I told him I'd take my chances (Nexium was killing me). He went ahead and referred me to my Gastro doctor and when I went in to see him I told him, I was there to get referred for the Nissen surgery. Of course, we had to do the testing, but it turned out I have Barrett's Esophagus (which is scarey to me) and my LES was not working at all. Within a few weeks I met with my Surgeon and a couple of weeks later had the surgery.
Only you know what signs and signals your body is giving you. Don't give up you are your only true advocate. Not being able to breath is scary. I had ended up in the ER in February due to a major asthma attack, which lead me to seeing an Allergist/Asthma Specialist, if it wasn't for him I would still be suffering.
Keep your chin up.