I understand social restrictions very well; 20 years of food allergies makes things very tricky when you want to eat out. I find it best not to
open the subject. If I say "Just hot water for me please" with confidence and a smile (forced) no one asks questions and they assume I'm dieting or being ultra healthy. If I
open with saying I can't eat/drink this, that and the other, then I find I have invited all kinds of unhelpful comments and "advice". Nothing I hate more than finding my ailments the subject of the dinner conversation. Makes we want to say "So how's your prostate now . . . . Oh, sorry thought we were discussing personal complaints . . . !". So I tend to have several tricks that don't
open up the subject. I also take my own food if it's at someone else's house and they don't know how to do wheat free etc (or can't be trusted to get it right!). Alcohol wise I say I'm driving or have an early start the next day. I've even been known to accept a glass and not drink it, just wander around with it, then give it to OH or put it down somewhere and accidentally forget about
Lastly, I guess I just live with parties no longer being about
the food; they are about
being with friends or family. Or they are about
the kids having a nice time. There are one or two things I just don't go to because it's too difficult food wise, but mostly I manage by focusing on seeing people and catching up with friends, rather than just thinking of the whole occasion in terms of food. I know you will say that allergy may be seen as a better alibi than GERD (cos people understand allergy is dangerous but they don't really know what GERD is). However, the strategy of a closed answer and a swift change of subject works for me. If you say "My doc has me on a special diet" and then wait for an answer or sympathy, odds are you won't enjoy what follows. But if you close it off with "And how's so and so" most people forget their nosiness and follow the subject change!
I agree it's hard but you just have to shift your focus. This week I couldn't even share my son's birthday cake, but I just served it with a smile and ate my wheat free muffin discretely. My little one had a fab birthday; at the end of the day that's all that matters.
New stuff: GERD. Interstitial Cystitis
Lifelong stuff: Food allergies, eczema, asthma
Post Edited (mudmagnetmum) : 7/5/2011 3:26:31 AM (GMT-6)