You are absolutely correct that surgeons don't tell people what to really expect. I don't think they can really understand unless they have been through it themselves.
I short story about
this: My PCP a couple years ago asked me about
what I went through after my nissen. He had been having reflux for years and was interested in surgery, but he to had heard all the horror stories. This was after my first redo. We spent about
30 minutes talking about
my issues before surgery, my recovery, and how things were after recovery. He told me he had talked with a surgeon friend of his that does this surgery and even he wasn't told about
what the recovery was really like. Said his friend didn't tell him even 1/4 of what it really is like during recovery. After or talk he decided he was going to get it done if the meds continued to not help. Unfortunately he left the area and I don't know if he had it done or not.
Anyhow, Everything you are experiencing is normal as far as I have seen from my own recoveries. For some reason my first one was the hardest. I really am not sure if it's because I didn't know what to expect or what.
Nissen 6/06 and 5/09
#3 on 8/24/11