Well I can honestly say I know how you feel. I gave birth to my son in 2007, my pregnancy was fairly good only slight reflux 5 or so days and gestational diabetes. However afterwards I wasn't feeling quite well and was subsequently diagnosed with Graves Disease. After 2 years of countless appointments they finally got my dosage right and I was later able to come off the medication altogether. However during this time I was strictly forbidden to fall pregnant again. A few weeks after being given the all clear and almost ready to start trying for baby number 2, I got food poisoning quite bad, during which I almost choked. Days after the food poisoning I was still ill so seeked a g.p's opinion. He told me the side effects I felt (Nausea, feeling of throat closing) were most likely acid reflux caused by the food poisoning and prescribed me zoton for a month or so.
At first I was reluctant to take them as I did not have heartburn and didn't believe it was reflux at all however after a few more restless nights sleep I gave in and took the tablets.... They worked. After the month was over I stopped taking the tablets as directed however within 8 hours I was feeling the telltale signs of reflux again. I also had to do the barium swallow (Yuk) and they discovered I indeed had GORD. After 9 months of Zoton which had to be increased to twice daily, I had to have an endoscopy during which they discovered a hiatal hernia, Gord and not much else (Caused by the violence of my food poisoning). I was pretty much given my marching orders with a note to continue the zoton.
I cut out my beloved coffee, cola and tea (my triggers) and found if I ate any pre-prepared food (subway, hungry jacks, salads, deli foods) I would be nauseous and spend the better half of the next day on the toilet. After almost 3 years of this, I know my triggers and hate not being able to dine out with my family, friends or other half.
I still have not continued to expand my family for fear of the reflux and hernia. I never wanted a big age gap between my children however it has just turned out this way, I have been told chances are I will never come off my medication (I can't change that) given my time again I would have started trying for baby number 2 earlier regardless of the reflux. Sometimes I already feel like a 70 year old in a 26 year olds body and I am not going to put my life on hold any longer. My advice to you would be follow your heart.
P.S. my family don't understand it either quite frusrtating having to explain it over and over, and explain it is NOT just heartburn.
Goodluck to you xx