I'm not sure how a bed holds up that is a true bed with side-rails attaching the head to foot. My bed is a metal frame with a headboard, and that works fine and holds up well. I detach the headboard so it doesn't have to slant down when the legs are raised. I just wedge it between the head of the bed and the wall, and it works just fine. I can say, though, that I've used the wedge and the raised bed, and the raised bed is much more comfortable. Also you won't slide down and get your stomach in a pressured position like you may with a wedge. It's always flat, and though you may need to reposition yourself, you're never in a position that puts pressure on your stomach.
Since the surgery is an extreme fix (I had it in Feb. 2009 and am glad it did) that it's always better to try all other options first. If you're actually getting a mouthful of acid in the morning, you definitely need the elevated bed. Also...when do you take your PPIs? Do you take one in the AM and one in the PM? My PCP is a stickler on taking it an hour before dinner (on an empty stomach), as it's more likely to be effective when sleeping, which is when most reflux tends to occur.
It took many years before I got to the point where my GI doc felt comfortable referring me to a surgeon. Have you had testing yet? I had my surgery because it was making my asthma uncontrollable. My reflux wasn't as bad as yours, either. You'll need an endoscopy, PH monitor, barium swallow, and manometry. Some also require a stomach emptying test. All these are critical in deciding whether or not you're a candidate for surgery.
You don't want to let it go, though. Especially if the reflux is getting into your lungs.
Wish I could offer more help!
Good luck with your search for answers!
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