Asthma, Allergies & other people's pets! What can I do? I feel so alone...

Does anyone out there have to avoid family due to allergies and asthma?
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   Posted 1/15/2013 3:46 PM (GMT -6)   
I have been suffering from severe Asthma and Allergies for all my life. My family has always known about my asthma and allergies. However, over the last 2 years I have had one brother get married and now has 4 dogs and a rabbit, then this year my parents adopted a dog, and most recently another brother of mine got engaged and adopted a puppy. Now I feel like I can no longer spend time with my family or attend family parties because I am too allergic. My family seems to think that I am just being melodramatic and that it is a simple mater for the dogs to be relocated to another room (or outside) and that I just need to take more medicine. Unfortunately, no mater how many times I try to explain, I don't feel that they truly understand how serious my condition is.

This Sunday was the last time that I had dinner with my family and not only did I suffer from allergies to my parents dog, but two of my brothers each brought a dog to dinner (making it 3 dogs). I tried to play it nice and not complain even though I had to puff on my inhaler several times. By the time I made it home I was worried that i might need to go to the ER, I was wheezing so bad and I had hives on my neck and face (even though I never touched the dogs). I was feeling hurt and upset, so I posted about my Asthma and Allergies on facebook, along with some links to some informative articles, in the hopes that they would gain some understanding for the seriousness of my condition. Unfortunately, I don't think they got the hint and are probably upset at me for being so "melodramatic".

I know it is selfish of me to think that my family would avoid having pets just because of me. It still hurts though, because I love my family, but I don't think that they understand that my asthma and allergies are severe and can be life threatening. I feel so alone. I now have a hard decision to make on whether or not I am going to be attending anymore family functions. cry

How can I educate my family and better explain to my family why I can't visit anymore, without hurting their feelings?

Has anyone else had to deal with situations like this?

Post Edited (Desertaquarius) : 1/15/2013 2:25:10 PM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 1/15/2013 4:48 PM (GMT -6)   
I had this issue with my father and smoking. I told him I was sorry, but I'd be unable to visit in his home, but that I'd be happy to welcome him to my home and he could smoke in the back yard. I was non-dramatic and polite about it, but firm that I couldn't be in the smokey house.
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   Posted 1/18/2013 9:39 AM (GMT -6)   
Desert - welcome to the forum.

I get allergy shots through my allergist. I'm sure you can get shots for various animal dander. I had grass pollen added last year.

While you're building up your level of the shots all you can do is avoid the relatives unless they are having a get-together outside. Personally I think it's rude to bring pets to other people's homes or parties or ask people to ride in a car that is doggy. It's not just for allergies, but dogs smell really bad to some people. I don't visit one relative anymore because the house is rabbity. It's sad, but they bring the problem on themselves. There's always Skype.
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