Mom has had AD since 2000. In a nursing home since August 2006. Just told a few weeks ago that they wanted to move her to palliative care; she is losing weight and her appetite. I am one of 3 siblings. One lives out of town and visits once or twice a year. My brother in town, can't deal with this. So I am the one that does the majority of her care-giving. I work full time plus, so since August I have tried to see Mom every other weekend. Late January of 2008 I got the bad respitory flu so I didn't get to see her until March. Now I am having a hard time to go and see her. I don't believe she has known me for over a year and in the past 6 months she no longer "lights up" when I come to visit. Is it wrong for me to not visit so much? Will I feel guilty later? Of all her children, for many years and I mean over 20 years, I have given her the most, loved her the most and I don't think I will have any regrets. Any advise?