Hi tia; I came when my Dad called me for help with my stepmother, who has kidney disease, two xmas's ago. I knew my Dad was repeating himself a lot but I didn't make the connection. He and she were very isolated and I just thought maybe he didn't have a lot of news to talk about
, so, he was telling the same story over and over. Once I was here, I realised, he had dementia, most likely Alzheimers because his mother passed away from it merely 5 years previously. I was very hands on in her care so it was easy to spot. I don't know if I knew then what I know now, about
giving my life over to care for a parent with Alzheimers, that I would have. I am in it now, up to my eyeballs, none of the other sibs want anything to do with us, or caring for my Dad and I'm stuck. It is making me ill. The stress is unbelievable. I was a single mom, raised two boys in a rough part of town, have several stress related illnesses, worked three jobs, one fulltime , two part time, almost lost my youngest to gang activity and am in worse condition now, here, trying to look after my Dad, Stage II Alzheimers, than any other time in my life. I have been homeless, lived out of my car. Worked the dirtiest of all jobs, recycling plants, sorting garbage, cleaning toilets in the park, I'm sorry, that was hard, but there was an end in sight. No end in sight here. No support from family. Total isolation. Constant stress. Negativity galore. Think about
it before you do it. The person I am now caring for is not my Dad. I don't know where my Dad went and who this miserable, mean, vindictive person is. I am stuck. Short of taking him to an emergency room and refusing to take him home again, is the only way out. I can't do that. I don't know what to do. My children, now grown and doing well, say, mom, yes, putting him in a nursing home may shorten his life. But is it worth losing your life over? Think.