I wrote a post about how members might be able to assist me in getting my Dad to agree to accept his lifestyle as a tractor driving farmer has run it's course. Everytime I bring up the topic of selling the tractor to cover some bills outstanding in our little town, he gets really cranky. I have tried everything to cut costs and still can't make ends meet. Our only hope is to sell first the tractor, plow, and cultivator, ASAP, then in the new year, the farm, because I can't live there (black mould), and as my siblings won't assist in anyway, either hands on or by assisting financially. I have tried to cut everything to cut costs, got rid of expensive vehicle, bought a little 11 year old car I can do a lot of the maintenance on myself, totally paid for, no extras, no cable TV, no going out to eat, no movies, nothing that isn't absolutely necessary. I still have to rely on credit from local merchants, and that's beginning to get old. Now, the head honcho's take off when they see me coming. I've been questioned sternly about exactly when bills will get paid. My debit card was revoked at the local bank. It's terribly humiliating. Dad no longer uses the tractor but gets very angry when I suggest we must sell it. this siyuation is very unpleasant, is causing me terrible stress, something I need to avoid. How do I get Dad to see I need to do this in order to keep going?