Thank-you Lyn: Sometimes I feel like my life is on fast forward and I can't find the pause button. God did give me strength in the form of my son coming to help out this week. Alas he has to go home tomorrow as he starts a new job Monday. At least for the time he has been here he's been available to supervise Dad from about
2 PM till dad's ready for bed around 7:30 - 8:00 PM. That's another blessing, dad goes to bed early enough that I get a couple hours of "me time" from dad's bedtime till I turn in around 10:00 PM. I usually just watch some of my favorite shows which Dad describes as "disgusting", the CSI trio, Criminal minds and so on. I cannot watch them in the living room as he gets worked up so while my son is here, I can watch them from my bedroom. Dad did something the night before last, that was extremely rude. As my son is on vacation, he often stays up late watching TV. Apparently, Dad came out while my son was watching TV and just walked over and turned the set off. My son just stared at him, incredulously, speechless. It wasn't that the TV was disturbing dad, we keep a "white noise" generator on at night outside his room because he goes to bed so early, we're not going to tippy toe around. I rent this house through my disability cheque. Dad is a guest here. he really steps out of line, sometimes, and I correct him. Not that it's so gall darn important but rather that when he eventually ends up in a long term care facility he will have some regard for others. His wife who is presently having hip surgery, today, allowed him to yell at her, be disrespectful towards her, and verbally abusive towards her. He doesn't know how to be civil to females. He's gotten away with that behavior for far to long. He will be at the mercy of primarily female caregivers once he is placed and he won't get very far being rude and not watching his tongue, when dealing with female caregivers. I think partially, his action towards my son was to try to drive him off so Dad could have complete control over me (isolating me from my supports). I don't think he's even aware he's doing it, he's been doing it that way for ages. I have set down some ultimatums for my two sibs regarding our somewhat desperate situation, they may respond as they please. If they don't hop aboard the bandwagon and get involved in Dad's care, I, who have POA, will take it upon myself to do whatever needs to be done in order to save myself and see that Dad is adequately cared for. Thanks again, for listening.