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Date Joined Jun 2009
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   Posted 6/11/2009 5:13 AM (GMT -6)   
I looked for a forum where I might be able to talk with others in a similar situation.
I noticed symptoms with my Dad about 4 or so years ago and when I first mentioned this to my Mom and my sister, they were in denial.  I believe he has now reached possibly what is called the 2nd stage; however, I'm not certain about that.
My mother is 89 and my Dad 90.  They still live alone by choice; however, my mother is now becoming frightened as she is crippled.   While I just turned 62, I am not in a position financially to give up my job . . . 2 job losses in a period of 3 years and the dramatic decrease in my IRA in this financial crisis has cost me money that I needed for my own future . . . (I am single, self-supporting.)
My mother doesn't want to put him in a nursing home and refuses to move to an Assisted Care Facility. 
My Dad at a point where he is still not totally out of it and when my Mom tried to tell him that we have a volunteer coming in to be with him when she went shopping, he went ballistic.
Today I woke up to a note from her saying that my Dad asked her if she had any nickels and dimes and when she asked what he wanted them for, he told her he wanted to eat them.
She keeps asking me what to do and I'm just as without a clue as she is.

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Date Joined Jun 2009
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   Posted 6/11/2009 5:15 AM (GMT -6)   

P.S. to this post

He was taking Aricept but last October stopped taking it as he believes a doctor told him he no longer needed any pills.

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   Posted 6/11/2009 9:30 AM (GMT -6)   

I received a lot of help from the Alzheimer's Association. Their website is They even have a hotline you or your mom can call.

I wish you well,


Fibromyalgia, Osteoarthritis, scoliosis, back problems, hypothyroidism.

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   Posted 6/12/2009 4:11 PM (GMT -6)   
Have you talked to the Dr??

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