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Date Joined Feb 2010
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   Posted 2/17/2010 3:02 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello everyone:
my name is Bruce and I have just joined and have a request for knowledge information as this is all new to me and I am trying to understand it
My Mother who is 84 years old has been seriously ill and at the ICU unit at our hospital for over a month with a Triachaotomy tube in she has been moved to a regular room and they have capped her Triach, and she can talk. I have visited her daily but only recently have been able to talk to her she had a slight stroke, and Hypoxia due to advanced Emphazema and Neumonia which we didn t know she had and I have been taking her to her Dr appts and her Dr never mentiones she had this
My question is she seems altered mentally, some times she is knowledgeable about her situation and who her family is and other times when I talk to her she is confused and don t reconize me as her son which is very upsetting the Dr tells me when she is released she will most certainly need to gointo a nursing home which I don t want at all I told him I will look after her and hire a nurse
or aid to help with medical issues and personal hygene etc to that he is not impressed and obviously dosn t agree with this but I don t want and will not just put her in one of these homes and here in Ontario Canada tyheir have been many investigations into these places and charges against the staff and owners
I actually live in Europe not Canada anymore but I will and can financially and personally mve back and look after her
Is this dementia/Alzheimers can it be a tempory condition which can resolve itself
What if anything can I personally do to help to improve this mental state
And is me planning to care for my Mom myself a incorrect decission and should I listen to the Dr s
Obviously due to this being a almost sudden situation I don t know much to anything about caring for someone with these issues
so please any advise help or information would be very welcome  and helpfull
Ontario Canada

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Date Joined Feb 2010
Total Posts : 114
   Posted 2/17/2010 8:10 PM (GMT -6)   
I hope that someone with more knowledge will post. I will hope with you that it is a temporary problem. If she had a stroke, then it seems that it would have an effect. Problems with strokes can often be overcome.
Best of luck to you!

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Date Joined Apr 2004
Total Posts : 1539
   Posted 2/17/2010 10:38 PM (GMT -6)   
Alzheimer's is not a temporary disease.....I have vascular dementia it is slower but the end is the same........Just keep on keeping on.........

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Date Joined Jan 2005
Total Posts : 24909
   Posted 4/5/2010 11:25 AM (GMT -6)   
Bruce..first welcome ..secondly i can tell you i ended up like your mom n i did hv tube n was on life support for some time
my memory is 90 percent now but i still have bad days

I live in Ontario myself and know of what you are talking about regarding the standards here
what we need to do is bring forth a bill to the house mandating that N HOMES and Retirement homes be made to answer to public inquiry
right now they get a accredidation but thats just really a certificate imho

I had my own home with 80 plus residents and i had family with them if i suspected anything or found any type of abuse going on that person answered for it
our seniors need VOICES to help them when this happens
i was fortunate to be able in some ways lol hv my entire family working there mom was a geriatric nurse my brother a psych nurse and my dad worked n ran kitchen
we had open door policy where anyone could come in and check things out
i involved social services and adult protective services within the home
i hv since lost both parents to this been ill myself and just coming round but i do fight for justice for our seniors as they truly are our lost souls and that is so not right by me
YOU can check out nh and regulated..make sure they are..retirement homes not all are bad n unfortunately what happened here a few yrs ago really gave a bad name to this whole thing n with much of it rightly so
i do understand why you are reluctant here and i hope that this will be a whole different thing now

i have been out of this line of work for awhile but still fight indignities against our seniours

im now like snowy i just keep going every day trying my best
you are a great son
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