Posted 7/3/2010 12:11 AM (GMT -6)
Out of love she bade you and your siblings to put her in a home. She didn't want you to have to go through all the pain, hardship, time of all the care she needs. There is a thing called Sara Lift (a machine that moves the patients from bed to wheelchair, etc) that can be used to aid in moving a person who otherwise can not. You are doing what she wants. My best advise, since she is in a nursing facility, go every day like you are, but make sure it is on different shifts every day. Do not do a spefic time, do not call ahead. I spent 4 years working in a nursing facility, and I know what happens when family is not around. The patients that has family coming everyday at any moment of the time of day gets the best care. It is indeed sad, of what the elders go through. It shocked and dismayed me to walk on shift and find out from a patient they were soiled and hadn't been changed for an hour. I put all my patients first, I worked through my breaks and just claimed to take a break, listened to them, talked to them, showed them a kinder heart, just so they know someone actually cared and had some respect. That is why, I told my family when my grandmother needed to go to a home, I told them over my dead body and I was moving in first. She still is now in her very house, with me as a 24/7 caregiver doing it all for her. I am now starting to get help from the rest of the family, for the first time in two months I'm just now starting to get a few hours to myself here and there. Since your mom wants the nursing faciliity, do that for her, so she gets good care. I tell people how it is behind the scenes- of what we hide from people to make them aware so they can avoid it happening.