Posted 8/5/2010 7:24 PM (GMT -7)
I would call g'ma's doctor's office and find out if they have a social worker on staff, and if so, call a meeting with the social worker and your family, sibs and mom and if not, maybe the doctor would meet with all of you. Someone has to get it through your family's head that you need more than just 3 hours a week. Sadly, most people that have not experienced caring for someone with dementia simply do not get it, they just don't. I went through the same thing. My mom has Alzheimer's and for the first year, she lived with me. My sisters took turns picking her up on Sundays from 1 until about 5. I had a woman come in during the week, but she was here ONLY when I was at work, so that really didn't help me, but my sisters just didn't see it that way. They were just "too busy". My health finally forced me to look for places where my mom needed to live, I just couldn't do it any longer -- I have fibromyalgia. One of my sisters finally stepped in and said she'd take my mom. It was only then that she realized what I was going through.
I really believe you need a professional to try to get through to your family what you are going through. You can also try calling the Alzheimer's hotline which you can get at www.alz.org. There are wonderful people there very willing to listen and offer help. You did not mention that your g'ma had Alz, but the organization covers dementia and sundowning. I wish you well,