I've read this string over and over, and seriously, my I don't consider myself to be the kind of person to toss my parents into an assisted living because I'm selfish. I hold down a job, a house, travel frequently, and try to take care of my parents by myself because my other siblings are hours away. I also have caregivers coming in to help, and I do their finances.
What I believe is that my parents raised me to be self sufficient and do exactly what I'm doing -- I don't think they would want me to throw away my job, my family, my house just to take care of them. As a matter of fact, many of my colleagues are in the same conundrum that I am; how do we best take care of our aging parents? It's not something I take lightly and think about it constantly. Not only do I have parents here, but in-laws on the east coast who are having major issues. And please remember, our generation is probably the first generation to really have to deal with aging issues. Our parent's didn't really have that issue (some did) but I know my parent's both retired at 52, and their parents had died before their retirement. They didn't have to deal with aging parents. It's a tough thing to carry this load. I realize my parents raised me, but I think they know they are loved and cared for -- even if I need to rely on an assisted living facility.