I know everyone's circumstances are different, but I made a promise to my mother, she would never, if any way possible within my power, go to a nursing home. You only have one mother, she raised you, looked after you, fed you, dressed you, tried to give you all she could.........now it is her time to receive. My mother had cardiomyopathy, which was a death sentence, but with today's meds, she lived for years after her diagnosis. When her body could no longer tolerate the medicine, she lasted 3 months, weaker and weaker by the day- Parkinsons on top of that.
I took care of her when she was unable to do a thing for herself, hospice helped.
Do what you can, your mom does NOT want to go to a nursing home- I have never heard anything good to come of that. They die lonely and broken hearted. I'm sorry, but that is me.