coping with husband's dementia

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   Posted 12/10/2010 8:14 PM (GMT -6)   
My husband has been on Aricept for four yrs; MD syas he has a dementia.

He is mainly very forgetful: cannot remember where he puts anything, who he has talked with, what people tell him. He also has lost ability to do things around house because he just cannot remember how to do them or where things are. In addition, he has some personality changes. To compound his problems, he had back surgery last yr and is in constant mild pain but refuses medication. He is also Diabetic on insulin

He is so depressed (takes antidepressant) because of not being able to do things he use to do and because he is not the person he was at one time. He is 75.

It is so frustrating for him, and for me.

Recently, he has taken up the childish habit of pouting if I don't do everything he wants or agree with him all the time. I hate pouting.

He goes to bed when he pouts. Thus he spends a lot of time in bed.

Any suggestions for how to deal with pouting? I just ignore him. Apparently, that is not the right thing to do.


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   Posted 12/11/2010 5:33 AM (GMT -6)   
Try to engage him in some activity at home or go out someplace with him.Lunch maybe or supper.Do you have a senior citizens center? Both of you go eat lunch there,see what if any activities they offer.....We have exercise machines,computer room,card/domino tables,big screen tv,blood pressures are checked twice a month as 1 of the nursing services comes in. we have a van that takes some to the stores here in town,dr appointments,beauty shop or barber shop,birthday party's every month,the list goes on.........He's bored.......

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   Posted 12/11/2010 8:48 AM (GMT -6)   
People with dementia or Alzheimer's are not in control of their emotions nor do they understand what they are feeling anymore; it confuses them. For instance, when they become mad they don't know why they are mad or why they got mad in the first place nor do they recognize that they are mad; it's a disconnection of feelings and things are very chaotic. When he pouts, maybe you can try to redirect it. When he starts to pout, try to get him to do something that takes him out of that mental loop such as going for a walk or any of Snowy's suggestions; something that makes him happy. Ignoring a person with AZ or dementia can only make them feel isolated even more and they tend to stick with the last emotion that occurred.
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