Carer stolen from my dad - advice please

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   Posted 1/7/2011 6:30 AM (GMT -6)   
my dad is in a care home (i am british) and has front lobe dementia so he is lucid.
I noticed that his Ipod had gone missing as he couldnt find it in his drawer a week or so since last using it.  This Ipod was bought for him last christmas when we could not find his previous Ipod but was unsure if it had been stolen as he had just changed care homes.
I have told the manager of the home but she is not really taking it seriously. 
Any advice as to what steps i can take to ensure i get recompense and/or how to stop it happening again?
Any help greatly appreicated.

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   Posted 1/7/2011 6:40 AM (GMT -6)   
If the manager is not taking you seriously, go over her head. Surely there is someone higher up then her? Did you search his room to be sure he just didn't hide it? One thing you can do to ensure that his things do not get stolen is to buy a lock case. If he is lucid enough to use one of these, then I recommend it. He can put his Ipod in there along with anything else of value to him.
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   Posted 1/7/2011 7:12 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks - yes i shall get him one - he is quite immobile as well but that sounds like i good idea - somehting he may get on with - dont know why didnt think of that. i am calling her today to chase if she has actually done much about investigating it. thanks you
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   Posted 1/7/2011 1:51 PM (GMT -6)   
Sadly, theft is an issue, even in the finest of homes. My mom is at a place that is consistently rated 5 star (the highest rating given) and yet I have been frequently warned that I mustn't leave anything of value in her room. Mom use to love wearing jewelry and now I have to keep it at my house for her. She has a few rings and a necklace she keeps on, but that is it. The locked case sounds like a perfect solution, as long as your dad is lucid enough to lock it up and unlock it.
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   Posted 1/7/2011 8:29 PM (GMT -6)   
How about filing a police report--or telling the owner that you are about to? That should get their attention.

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   Posted 1/22/2011 7:04 PM (GMT -6)   
My fathers wing had an incidence of this happening. It turned out that one of the residents was (non-maliciously) taking things from other rooms. He didn't know what he was doing but they also discovered where a lot of the silverware had disappeared to. :-)
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