We put her in the home today. This was the worst day of my life. It wasn't the move, in fact, she no longer thinks much about being in her own home. The problem is the AZ. She didn't want to go anywhere, didn't even want to get up from her chair. So it was a struggle all the way to get her up, dressed, out the door, in the car, with her struggling and resisting all the way. Keep in mind she's 95, but her strength is very good when she wants to grab something, pinch, or bite.
Took her to the home with her moaning all the time. As soon as we got to the home and took her inside she calmed down and was actually in a good mood. The doctor checked her out, and except for the AZ she was in good shape. She took a memory test and failed pretty miserably. The doc said she has moderate to severe AZ and will change her meds.
She was OK the rest of the day, ate well, and was fine until the dreaded sundown syndrome kicked in around 4. She then started fighting to get out of her wheelchair, with little thought about her falling, scraping on the metal parts, etc. Had to restrain her with a little vest made for that purpose, then watch as she sat there struggling against the vest and moaning the whole time. The staff finally took her in to put her to bed but I could not take any more and we left her to the care of the staff. I have no idea how she will spend the night, or if she will fall in the middle of the night and hurt herself again.
I never thought AZ would be like this. I thought it was just forgetting things, losing memory, and peaceful in a way, because the person would not remember anything bad. But it's just the opposite in my mother's case. Not only can she not remember anyone, but she doesn't even know enough to keep from hurting herself or others, and she acts like she's trapped. I am completely out of resources now, I have no idea what to do other than to leave her to the professional care of the staff and to trust that God knows best.
Pre-surgery PSA: 7 tests over 2 years bounced around from 2.6 to 5.6
Biopsy 8 of 12 positive, Gleason 3+4, T2a
DaVinci August 2009, pathology Gleason 4+3, neg margins, T2c
Post-surgery PSA one year of zeros.
Continent right away.
Viagra and other pills only gave me headache
Trimix working great!