My mom is in assisted living, has AD, diagnosed 7 years ago and thankfully with the help of two drugs, has kept her at a moderate stage,
although she does need help with bathing and dressing.
I have two sisters, one is an RN and works at the facility where
my mom lives but works evenings, 3 to 11. My mom has an aide
that comes in to give her a shower 2 x a week, but mom refuses
them. My sister makes sure to wash mom's bottom at night, and
change her underwear. These refusals are becoming more and
more, and now it has been over a week since she has taken a
shower. I spoke to the nurse earlier and she suggested I call
my mom and ask her to shower and they would go in there
undress her and give her the shower even though it is already
close to noon. I did call and of course, she became very nasty,
told me to mind my own business and ended up hanging up on me
I understand the "moods" of an AD patient. She lived with me
for a full year. I just do not know what to do? Are any of you
aware of any GOOD products on the market that I could use
to "bathe" my mom without a shower? Is there such a thing?
Or any other suggestions? I realize the elderly do not need a
bath as often but over a week is too much and since she is
in assisted living and we are trying to keep her there as long as
possible, they will only do so much; after all, it is "assisted" living...and
when my mom becomes stubborn, there simply isn't any
changing her mind
thanks so much'