Parents have 3 daughters, I am married to the youngest. The feeling she has of being chased from her home is the result of her husband being cruel and refusing to provide adequate caregiver assistance to her. For example, he requires an attendant 24x7 since he is bedridden. His overnight help is male and he will not allow her morning helper to come until very late morning when the nighttime caregive is leaving (he doesn't see why they should pay for two). Naturally she is not comfortable be assisted with dressing or bathing by a male helper. Another common problem is that he will "hijack" her helper even when he has one available. It seems innocuous enough, his helper calls to her helper and says hey, give me a hand for a minute. But, the result is that her helper does not reappear sometimes for 45-60 minutes.
He has failed to provide for her safety in that he will not use bonded help, or even people through an agency. He will not require any application from a prospective new caregiver and simply hires them based upon his assessment of whether they have the ability to help him. ....Then the jewelry went missing
We forced him to fire both helpers that had regular access to her bedroom by calling the police to file a theft report. Rather than be concerned about the missing property, he was concerned that we would pursue the matter with the INS since one of the women was illegal. He talked about the potential fine of $5000 but his jewelry loss could easily be $150K
He refused to allow us to buy a safe a few years ago when we became concerned with the revolving door of helpers he had coming and going. That was before she was diagnosed with MCI. Again, too costly ($230 at Costco)
He refuses to pay her medical bills for the doctor treating her for depression/MCI. The doctor stopped taking medicare and only does direct bill. He simply ignores the invoices and says she can switch or the doctor can start taking medicare again.
I didn't intend to rant when I found this forum so sorry for going on and on.