My mother-in-law is 89. She moved in with us 2 years ago when she became unable to care for herself. She has very bad osteoporosis, with lots of trouble walking, and alzheimers. After she had lived with us a couple of months, her house burned, not to the ground, but it is totally unlivable. Afterwards, she asked about her house about once a day. We told her the truth each time which always led to many more questions. And then we start with, I hate to be a burden on ya'll, with which she goes on and on, and then grieves for quite awhile. Now, 2 years later, she starts asking about her house continuously. It has become very depressing. I know she can't help it, but it is still hard to contend with when it dominates conversations. After all this time of telling her the truth and having to deal with the consequences, would it be okay to tell her that her house is fine, but she is unable to live by herself. Do you think it would help? We are so new to all this. Thanks for any help.