Posted 4/3/2011 8:09 PM (GMT -6)
My condolences to you and your family. First, you need to have someone in your family assigned as her Power of Attorney and Durable Power of Attorney for health care. With that in place, you or whoever will be able to take charge of her care. When that is in place (or if it already is), you should have her evaluated to find out the extent of her dementia. From there you can decide on how to proceed. For instance, if she is left alone for any period of time but lucid enough so she doesn't wander, you might want to remove the knobs from the stove so she doesn't try to cook. If she is a wanderer, you might need to place her in adult daycare or have someone come sit with her when someone is not home with her. Also too, it wouldn't hurt to have an ID chain placed on her - either a bracelet or necklace. I personally like the tamper proof bracelets.
People with dementia also have a hard time remembering when to eat or if they have already eaten. So it's important to have her partake in meals with you so she will get the proper nutrition.
When you take someone with dementia out of familiar surroundings, there might be some confusion at first. She may get more agitated and confused but patience is the key. Do not lose patience with her if she keeps asking the same question over and over. Having someone move in with you with dementia, it's pretty much like having another child.
If you should have more questions, do not hesitate to ask.