HI, Sherry, et al.
For a few years now we have been closely monitoring my MIL, who is showing increasing signs of AD. It has gotten to the point of hiring 24 hr. care for her. This is because of family dynamics that don't allow for any of her children to take this on full-time. All of her kids are older and are involved in business of their own, and have responsibilities with their extended families. She was recently taken to a memory clinic and the neurologist diagnosed her with moderate AD. He seemed to think that she would need institutional care within a year.
She sometimes refuses to bathe, cannot recall if she has eaten or not, has gotten belligerent with the care-givers, cannot remember the names of her grandchildren, and has some notion that two of the sisters have already put her in a nursing home. She is still in the same house she has lived in for 40 years. She claims that the technology is there to duplicate her house, wall to wall. This one has us baffled, but I guess the neurosis was planted some time ago. It has gotten to the point that she started buying things for the "other house." We returned them and tried to convince her that we are trying to take care of her by keeping her in her own house and getting the girls to help her. Her response, "Oh, that's what you want me to believe, but I know better. I was in the other house yesterday with (name of care-giver). You should come visit me there." Whoa. I asked her where it was and she replied that she would drive me there. Sorry, no can do. We have removed the car keys, checkbook,(a niece is being documented for elder abuse as she "borrowed "$3000.00 in December.
We think this all started about 4-5 years ago, when the confusion started becoming noticeable.
My question is this. Are we looking at moderate AzD as opposed to senile dementia, or do we have a full-blown case on our hands? She had an MRI last week that we are awaiting the results of. What is the difference between mild,moderate and severe stages of the disease.
Her outbursts have escalated to the point that the care-givers are calling us to diffuse the situations that come up when she gets angry. She's nearly totally deaf, so communication is difficult, if not frustrating because of all the yelling that has to be done. In the research we have done, we think she's headed for a NH sooner than one year.
If anyone on this site has some input, then it's more than welcome. We'd love to get some additional insight as to what they think is going on in her brain. We understand that all cases are different, but what do you think we are truly looking at as far as professional full-time institutional care is concerned.
In the meantime, I'll keep an eye on the "other house" wherever it is.
By the way, I'm no strange to HW as I post at the Prostate Cancer forum. Not regularly, but I check in frequently. Thanks for the time.