My mom has dementia, but has never actually been diagnosed with ALZ. She is on aricept and namenda which seems to help. I am currently taking her the meds twice a day because she can't remember to take them properly, even though we have done all the normal things to remind her and even made alarms on her cell. We are very close and I take care of all her finances, mail, and meds. She had no other physical issues until 2 months ago when she started having a lot of pain in her back/hip and was diagnosed with advanced arthritis in her spine. She cannot walk to get lunch so I have to buy all her groceries and take her lunch each day. I have a full time job and I am exhausted. I have one brother who helps occasionally.
I found a great assisted living 10 minutes from us with high recommendations from other families we know. She will go, and love it, and talk about it positively, but when she gets home she is determined not to go back. I cannot continue and I have explained this to her.
I know there are people who recommend telling them that it's temporary and just getting them in there and hopefully they will like it, or just making them stay once there. I just don't know if that is a good idea to force them to go? She has the money to do it. It would be so much better for her as well, as she has no friends and some days tells me that she hasn't spoken to another human being. That is just wrong. This place has classes and 400 residents who are active, trips, water aerobics, etc. I don't want to force it but some people say its the best thing to do?