Hank, I've had many conversations about
this with some of my friends around work that are dealing with the same issues. I've finally come to the conclusion that the medical field has the job of saving lives, no matter what. I've had to separate my thinking about
this issue. I know that my parents only wanted quality of life, and the same with my husband's parents. So, even though I lost my Dad to cancer, keeping him comfortable was more important than anything. The docs at that time wanted to do many tests as well...we said enough. My Mom, same thing. She is so tiny (82 pounds) that she couldn't do anymore tests, and she won't go to the doctor anymore. I guess it all comes down to what your wife expressed to you when she was in a more cognitive state of mind. Would she want more tests? If so, then go for it. If not, that's okay too. What I keep telling myself and my friends...you do your best to make the proper decisions -- not that it isn't tough! I would have kept my parents around forever, but I took their needs into consideration. It's heartbreaking, I know. Take care, and keep us updated on you and Wells.