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Date Joined Apr 2012
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   Posted 5/8/2012 7:01 PM (GMT -6)   
My wife, Wells, 79 years old and I guess in what I would call early late stage.

I posted before about her swallowing problems. After she was tested yesterday AM the therapist recommended small moist food, 1/2 teaspoon at a time and to put fork down on table between bites. Yesterday afternoon her MDs nurse called with result of lab tests. "Very low red cells, bone marrow not producing red cells." Wants Wells to see a blood specialist. I said why, for what reason? Wells is skin and bones and to subject her to more tests does not sound right to me. Probably would want a bone marrow. How can doing that improve her situation?

I have asked her doctor to call me so we can discuss the situation.


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   Posted 5/9/2012 8:21 AM (GMT -6)   
Hank, I've had many conversations about this with some of my friends around work that are dealing with the same issues. I've finally come to the conclusion that the medical field has the job of saving lives, no matter what. I've had to separate my thinking about this issue. I know that my parents only wanted quality of life, and the same with my husband's parents. So, even though I lost my Dad to cancer, keeping him comfortable was more important than anything. The docs at that time wanted to do many tests as well...we said enough. My Mom, same thing. She is so tiny (82 pounds) that she couldn't do anymore tests, and she won't go to the doctor anymore. I guess it all comes down to what your wife expressed to you when she was in a more cognitive state of mind. Would she want more tests? If so, then go for it. If not, that's okay too. What I keep telling myself and my do your best to make the proper decisions -- not that it isn't tough! I would have kept my parents around forever, but I took their needs into consideration. It's heartbreaking, I know. Take care, and keep us updated on you and Wells.
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