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   Posted 12/28/2012 10:37 AM (GMT -6)   
My Father just passed 3 weeks ago. Since his passing me, my sister, and other family members have been staying with my 83 yr old Mother around the clock. The first 3 days of my stay I noticed stange things my Mother would do and I brought this to the attention of other family members. We had her checked for Alzhiemers and the diagnosis was mild to moderate. She has started medication but the doctor said the trauma of losing her husband of 54 yrs. may cause it to worsen quicker or meds may not help. Our dilema is we all have jobs, young children, and some of us do not live in the same town. This puts the responsibility on just a few family members because Mom can't be left alone for lnog periods of time. We have talked about a nursing home, but it is very hard since Dad just passed. We are afraid this may make things for her even worse. There is no money for home care or anything else and we seem to be at a dead end. I would appreciate any advice anyone may have.

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   Posted 12/28/2012 11:04 AM (GMT -6)   
I'm sorry about the loss of your father. My condolances to you and your family.

As for your mother, have you checked out to see if your state offers government funding adult daycare? She may be able to get assistance from the state if she qualifies.

Check out www.alz.org. You might be able to find some information on this site including where to find assistance.
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   Posted 1/8/2013 9:07 PM (GMT -6)   
My condolances to you and your family.

For your mother, not only like Sherry mentioned you can do government funding for adult day care, there are also other routes, put an add in craigslist for some college students, free room and board in exchange for watching her (please do background checks if this is an option). Check with DHS, they have programs at no cost for at home nursing. I got 30 hours a month based on my income.

If a nursing home, please do not make appointments, just show up and do a tour, talk to the residents. I worked at a very bad one and refuse to put my family in it.
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