mom being asked to move out of memory care

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   Posted 5/5/2013 5:49 PM (GMT -6)   
My mom has been in a memory care facility for 10 months. In that period of time, mom has fallen at least 10 times. Most recently, mom fell 5 times in a 10 day period. Now the facility has met with me and asked me to find a new place for mom, something like a residential care home, so she's in a smaller setting.
Can they legally "make" her leave? I was under the impressions that mom would be able to live out the rest of her life in this facility. I don't feel they are living up to the care they said she'd get. I really don't look forward to moving her, as this will cause much turmoil in her life, and she wouldn't understand why or where she was.

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   Posted 5/5/2013 9:26 PM (GMT -6)   
Oh how difficult an upheaval for both of you. Is there an Alzheimer's support group near you thay may know more about these situations?

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   Posted 5/6/2013 8:29 AM (GMT -6)   
Yes, that is tough stuff. My Mom's memory care facility is only about 40 people, and they have quite a big staff, so it's manageble for them. And, if she worsens -- there is a facility on the bottom floor for more help; kind of like residential care.
Residential care homes are quite nice, but just know that if your Mom is on hospice, many will not accept hospice patients. Also, go and check some of the residential care homes out and as thebrothersmother suggested, find a support group that can help you.
Your Mom might thrive better in a smaller home; I had a grandparent that was in a smaller home, and it was very nice, and she enjoyed it because they gave her more attention. Take care, and keep in touch.

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   Posted 5/9/2013 7:12 AM (GMT -6)   
Your main concern shouldn't be whether they can legally move her.  You should be happy that they suggested this so she will get better care elsewhere.  Yes she will probably get scared at the beginning of a new place but at least she will still be one piece.  Of course that's if  you get her to a better place than the one she's at now. 
Yeah it's a tough call.  No one take care of your parents better than you nor care to.
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