Posted 6/23/2013 4:59 PM (GMT -6)
To Bella33 .......
Our family size is small unfortunately. My step-father passed away 18-years ago, and my Mothers only brother (and his wife) passed away over 15-years ago. There are no other living aunts or uncles, and I have been living (and was working) out of a home over 20-miles away from Mom's house - still do live there.
I do have one daughter, that very unfortunately, my Mother drove out of her house at dinner 21-years ago - and then got into my daughters business with her mother-in-law about 15-years ago right after the baptism of my oldest grandaughter. I'll simply leave it that my Mother had a substantial drinking problem for decades!!!!!!!!
My youngest daughter had been away in college for most of that timeframe getting a B.A. and an M.A. And, as for me, I did actually call my Mother every day around 5pm from the time that my step-father passed away until last Summer ... yep - every day!!!
I am battling a couple of major problems - COPD for the past 5-years, Prostate cancer first diagnosed in 2003, treated - and then it came back and spread two+ years ago - and it created a problem in both of my kidneys - so I have been in the hospital 3-times with kidney failure in the past 18-months.
But ... I have been paying all of her bills the past three years - and have been over to her house at least weekly for three years - so the family has been very much just ME!
The "buying the love" thing has been there as long as I can remember. A psychologist that I went to for months after Mom threw my daughter out of her life, said my Mother has a very low sense of self-esteem ... and that started before my existence!!!
You don't know how often I wished I had a brother and/or a sister!!!