Hello Shellasim ... and welcome:
I too have a Mother in a Home for Dementia, and it's been an experience. Early last year, the local Senior Center had a weekly get together for caregivers (mostly of parents) that was my first exposure to some degree of caregiving. It had a facilitator that was barely 25 years old and a graduate of the local State University ... but she had an amazing degree of perception.
Unfortunately, the program stopped for some unknown reason. During that timeframe, my Mother was at home with a 24/7 live-in care-giver who was good, and I learned a little from her. Then last September, Mom's doctor said he wanted her to be in a facility that had a registered nurse - so a new chapter began.
My Mother is 95 years old, is incontinent and is mostly confined to a wheelchair. But .... until she was 93, she was happily and independantly living alone, driving and I called her daily just to checck in. It has been an experience - only wish I had some family who could have helped - but Mom has adjusted to the Home for Dementia pretty well, and with every visit, I have developed a greater appreceation for the care she has been getting.