What do you tell a person you suspect has Alzheimer's?

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   Posted 4/6/2014 5:09 PM (GMT -6)   
My wife, 70, is have extraordinary problems with her memory, such as not recalling a movie we both watched and enjoyed a few weeks ago. She has always been a worrier, but lately that has taken on larger dimensions. Her mother, who died at 94, suffered some form of dementia for a couple of years before her death, and my wife is afraid of that happening to her.

My question is this: Should I tell my wife what I suspect and open up a new problem to worry about, or, because Alzheimer's is incurable, should I stay silent at least until there are more pronounced symptoms? Can Alzheimer's be diagnosde in its early stages, and if so, are there treatments that can prolong quality of life?


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   Posted 4/7/2014 9:39 AM (GMT -6)   
If you suspect that your wife is having some sort of dementia issues, yes you should bring it up to her and take her to the doc for testing. Yes, AD can be diagnosed early and if she does have it, she can be placed on medication to help slow down the progression. The more pronounced the symptoms, the harder it is to "reel" in.
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   Posted 4/7/2014 10:06 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello .......
   I would hesitate to tell her by using either the names of alzheimers or dementia. At least when it comes to dementia, one of the first symptoms noticeable after some memory loss is "distrust" developed.
   You should absolutely bring her into a doctor for a diagnosis ... and maybe you could use some reason other than an implication of a memory disease.
   My Mother recently passed from Dementia three months ago. Her Mother over 20-years ago had passed from complications of alzheimers. My Mother had a tremendous fear of that disease watching her Mother die after years of continuing downturns.
   I hinted at her having Dementia twice - long after it was diagnosed by a doctor and she was in a home for dementia and parkinsons! Of course, she refused to believe it. Then, I said no more about it. What good would it have done for her to believe she has what she was so afraid of.
   I have been told by nurses at her home - and later by the nurse from hospice, that Namenda does work well in the earlier stages but not that well in the later stage of dementia.
   Please seek a doctor ... try to put together a question list ... and remember that patients are differ to some extent, so don't generalize too much.
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   Posted 4/24/2014 3:52 PM (GMT -6)   
I worked with Alz pts for years and I guarantee you that memory loss is NOT NOT NOT the foremost symptom of Alzheimers...
I have a friend who is now 89 and she only lives in the moment but for two years has been totally confused (and her dead kin folks visit her daily) ... but she does NOT have Alzheimers. I get very just plain angry with drs who are so quick to label memory problems or confusion as Alzheimers... if you have ever seen end of 2nd stage or 3rd stage Alz...I promise you, you know exactly what I am talking about!
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