Posted 6/14/2014 8:23 AM (GMT -7)
I lost my Mother to the downward spiral of dementia in January of this year. Our family is extremely small, so I was the only weekly visitor. I have a long thread here named "What to do"? - that covers much of the time she was in her Home for Assisted Living.
For a little background, she did have care in her home first - 24/7 care for a total of 16-months. But, as the power of the dementia increased, her doctor ordered me to find a home for her to be placed. She did stay in this Home for a little over 15-months ... and at first, always asked when she was going to go home.
It's not unusual that this happens ... and I thought it would have been a mistake to take her back to her home during her last 15-months. She did, eventually forget about her own home - and accepted the Home for Assisted Living as her home. It became her security blanket.
Looking back now, I think it would have been a mistake to bring her home or to her old home. It would have confused her and upset her - as difficult as that might be to believe.
Her home remained vacant for a year ... until last Summer whenit was put on the market to sell. In another 6-months, her lifetime savings would have been gone - and the money from the sale of her house was necessary to keep her in that Home for Assisted Living.
She never had to experience any of the heartache of watching her house being sold ..... and that was a good thing.
Best wishes to you ... and your decision-making!
Rob & Gizmo