I know this has got to be rough on you and even if you tell yourself that it's not really her speaking, it's still a tough blow. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do but keep trying to be there for her. It's nothing personal. She is stuck in her own little world and no matter what anybody says, it doesn't change the fact that she's not in her right mind. It's not her speaking but her dementia.
I had a bout of that with my gma, but unfortunately the victim was my then 10 year old daughter. It wasn't the other woman but my gma would always accuse my daughter of stealing. I know it's tough to deal with dementia as an adult but it's even worse for a child.
All you can really do is bite your tongue and honestly, try not to take it personal. This is not your mother speaking but an alter ego so to speak.
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