Oh, bless your heart! First off, if it's a sudden change like this, and a once loving husband suddenly wants to kill you or accuses you of terrible things, know that your husband cannot help it. He's dealing with a medical problem. My dad, our Alzheimer's patient, had a sudden turn similar to this, and it turned out that he had a raging infection that affected his brain, heart, about everything, all that on top of what had been mild Alzheimer's symptoms. He suddenly forgot that my mother had died and was asking where she was. I eventually called an ambulance and he was hospitalized. Any time an elderly patient gets an infection, especially with dementia, this can happen, according to his doctors and hospital staff.
When he first started this episode my brother took to him to a doctor who dropped the ball big-time, putting him on lorazepam which made Daddy worse. Said brother then brought him to me because they couldn't control him, and left. A few harrowing days later, waiting for an appointment to a different doctor, he became unmanageable and we then called an ambulance. He didn't know what he was doing and it wasn't his fault, but it still can be dangerous when they're like this.
Did they run any tests to check for underlying infections or other non-psychological tests? Has he seen a neurologist? His family physician or someone needs to get him into a neurologist ASAP if not. You should NOT be staying alone with him under these circumstances. Whether it's Alzheimer's or another illness doesn't matter; he most likely doesn't know what he's doing, but he could kill you or someone else just the same. For both your sakes, he needs to be evaluated by a competent neurologist, not just a psychiatrist.
55 yr. old--CD over 43 yr. Hemi-colectomy '01; spinal cord injury '01; fistulae since '97; enteropathic arthritis, chronic pain, muscle spasms, scoliosis, rotator cuff injuries
Sometimes I have a wicked sense of humor, other times I have no humor at all, but most of the time I just have no sense.