Father with Alzheimers

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   Posted 1/5/2016 10:09 PM (GMT -6)   
My father is going through the final stages of Alzheimer's. He is now verbally abusive to me. We have been going through this for six years now. I do not want to go visit him in the nursing home which is an assisted living centre in California. as I know what I will have to deal with. But I go, and some days come home and cry myself to sleep. This is an extremely unfair disease. I don’t know whether he is comfortable over there. Sometimes it's difficult when our loved ones won’t recognize us. Has anyone here been through this? Please share.

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   Posted 1/5/2016 11:47 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi! I'm new here but I just had to say that I'm sorry that you are going through that. That isn't really your Father talking. My Mom isn't in the final stage yet but she did let my Hubby have it a couple months back. We couldn't believe what she said, since they always got along well and she thinks highly of him. Then the next day she was normal again, didn't remember a word she said. Maybe she is in the last stages. There are some close family members that she doesn't recognize. Scary! I guess she'll forget me next. I think I am ready for whatever comes. I hope I am ready. Awful what these darn diseases can do to the body and brain. Just ignore his outbursts, difficult as it is. Hang in there and take care. :)

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   Posted 1/6/2016 7:59 AM (GMT -6)   
I agree, this is not your father talking. He is still in there but his brain won't let him be who he once was.

My Gma was never verbally abusive to me nor my son but for some reason she was to my daughter and husband. One day fine, the next nasty. Which was so odd because she was always very loving and giving in the past. It truly is an unfair disease.
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