Posted 8/16/2016 12:07 PM (GMT -7)
My sympathy to you and your family with this decision!
Was this placement in a ALF while mom went on a cruise seen
as respite or this ended up being the time his room was ready?
Do you believe he needs Lorazapam three plus times per day to calm him down /decrease agitation? That seems excessive ?
Taking a family member back to their original home after moving out can making them very confused!!! Dad spending time at the ALF as much as possible . Do they have established activity directors that have programs going during the day? Usually spread out from am and pm. Where they saying your visits were Interfering with him attending activities ?
You should be able to visit family as much as you want. 10 days is too early to assess his adjustment there. 3 months is a better assessment of his progress.
I asked these questions because in mid June I placed my father in a beautiful ALF after caring for him 18 years in my home. He had been diagnosed with Dementia about 1 yr ago. With that diagnosis came daily confusion, worsening each day, increase number of falls,
He also has Parkinson's Syndrome., I quit my job. It had gotten to
The point where he absolutely could not be left alone day or night.
I paid skilled care to come in and help. My husband and I looked for ALF. We also applied for Va. Benefits under his behalf. We had assistance in completion. It took us about 1 mo. To complete. And we are still waiting to hear. It can take 4-6 months. That money can be used towards his ALF or Nursing home care.
At our ALF, they do daily activities, they have bus trips that are for non Alzheimer's patients. On the ALF floors, they do activities and bus trips for just their floors. If the mom or dad is constantly taken
From the ALF by a family member, they have no time to enjoy and build relationships.
At this time, my dad is in a Longterm Care skilled Nursing home and Rehab Unit. (which is attached to his old unit) I hope he gets strong enough to go back "to his old room in ALF". He fell 4 times in 7 weeks . That's why he is in rehab now. Good days/ bad days/ good memories and full on dementia when he doesn't remember what he had for lunch 1 HR before.
I yearn for our old relationship back! Not to be now.
Taking 1 moment at a time. I got a little of where you are coming from.